Sick of the same conversation!

[pinkunicorn20]

Recently redecorated downstairs and swapped carpets for wooden floor. Have bought a lovely rug for the living room in a cream colour.
Dh insists on not only leaving his shoes on, but moving the rug with his feet with his shoes on!!!

I've asked him so many times not to do that as he'll dirty the rug and every time I get an ok I won't do it, then he bloody does it!

It's not like I chose the rug and he hates it, I'm also fairly sure he understands that if to put mucky shoes on a cream rug it will get dirty!

I hate nagging but in having to constantly say please don't do that.

He's driving me mad!!!!!!!!!!!

I'd say YABU to buy a cream rug for where people are going to put their feet, yes. IMO, floors are for walking on.

Yup. Bring the stress down by choosing a different rug.

That's not really the point, it was a mutual decision to put the rug in a low traffic area so it wouldn't be walked on, it's just to add a bit of something to the room.

To be honest the colour is largely irrelevant it would still get dirty regardless of the colour, how hard it is to not move it with a shoe-d foot lol

Make him remove shoes at the front door? Get a basket for them, they go in the basket straight away?

Or, as an equal partner in the relationship, understand that your dh is more comfortable wearing shoes in the house ?

Can you imagine the replies if a man came on here and said his wife preferred to wear shoes inthe house, but he wanted to make her take them off at the front door ?

Surely you knew he was a shoe wearer before you went for a fancy rug? Potentially before you married him ?

I would get him indoor only shoes and just give them to swap into every time he did this until it stopped. Unless he does all of the cleaning of the rug in which case he is just making more work for himself and can crack on.

Did you imagine the part where I said he has to take his shoes off at the door @BackforGood

Wooden floors and tiled areas- shoes on is fine. Bedrooms, shoes off. Cream carpets here too.
I grew up in a country where shoes aren't really worn inside, but now live in the U.K. so compromise a bit. Yanbu to have some areas shoe free imo

Why does he move it? Does he put it in one place and you put it back every day? Ikea do a plastic mat to protect flooring you could have a look at that sort of thing if it's in front of the sofa and hes skidding it around. Maybe he could get some slippers for indoors too.

To clarify I don't love the shoes in the house but the wooden floors make it easier to clean, I chose to pick my battles on the shoe thing. Granted I do get a little narky about the floors which is why I clean them more then he would if left to his own devices.
Decor was agreed upon including the choice of floor and rug and he agreed no shoes on the rug because of the colour. It's not like I dictated the colours and chase him round with a stick because he doesn't automatically de-shoe!

The lounge is not a low traffic area.

Change the rug to a darker one. Mine hides all sorts, and protects the cream carpet underneath.

Keep the cream rug for special occasions

Maybe yours isn't @Bombardier25966 but mine is, only really gets used on an evening for watching tv.

I've just bought a non-slip thing to go under the rug so hopefully that will help.

I'm just a little frustrated because it's such a simple thing imo.

Get a darker rug. But I understand why you’re annoyed, he mutually chose cream, agreed on no shoes and then wears shoes anyway... that is really frustrating! But I still think YABU (both of you) to have ever picked out cream in the first place.

I can't say he is doing some serious crime here. After all, has he walked through a field of cow shit to have such much on his boots? or just got out of the car and walked over pavement to the front door. You'd better chill. And yes, nagging for small matters does drive people mad.

pinkunicorn - No. I was replying to the poster who posted just above me.

I would feel the same. It is just about having a bit of respect for things and it is important to you. It won't kill him to keep his shoes off the rug. I don't think you should have to change the colour just because someone is being inconsiderate. Though I have no solution as I just had to buy a new rug due to my shoe wearing husband wrecking another one!

I love the rug, as did dh when we picked it and after years of dc being messy and sticky fingered we can finally have the room the way we want it, which is why it's light, it lifts the room as we have a darker wood floor and dark wood blinds. I'm ridiculously proud of it

Hopefully the chat we've just had will put a stop to it, basically if he dirties it then he has to clean it, not worth fighting over.

I apologise @BackforGood I misunderstood

@Acitywallandatrampoline exactly, we both worked hard to pay for the redecoration, I just feel like we've compromised for so long, making do with what we could afford as opposed to what we wanted. Now we're in a better position I want to keep the nice things nice.

No worries

Thank we must be married to the same man OP. Cream rug in lounge (no kids or dogs anymore). DH walks in and drags the rug with his heel towards the sofa. He's not infirm or anything so no reason why he cannot bend down and use his hand.

And... to make it worse... he loves having a cream rug but I'd happily swap it for a grey or patterned one, but he won't!

@thenightsky I agree, what is so difficult!