Head bitten off for trying to be nice

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Walking to the station in a big city on way home in the drizzle and I see a woman in her 20s leaving the station with an assistance dog and wearing sunglasses.

I see her stopping, at a crossroads and holding her phone really close to her face. In hindsight I jumped to conclusions and assumed she was maybe looking for directions and politely asked if she needs a hand.

Cue a barrage of griping and foul language about how she's reading a text and how it's none of my fucking business and would I give a shit if she didn't have a dog etc.

Combination of feeling really annoyed that someone would see the worst in an offer of help and a bit embarrassed thinking maybe did draw conclusions about her and her vulnerability. Was AIBU in asking....?

You tried to do a nice thing, don’t beat yourself up about it.

Honestly? Yeah, YABU.

You got called out for your virtue signalling. Hold your hands up, and accept it.

SHe may have just been having a bad day. No excuse for her rudeness though.

How is it virtue signalling? She actually offered she didn’t say on Facebook she considered helping the poor blind lady did she?

I get why you’re upset OP. Just try and let it go. You didn’t do anything wrong.

Of course YANBU!

No, you were lovely. She's obviously got a chip on her shoulder. Even if she didn't need your help, she could have politely replied "no, thank you".

I dont think you were ‘virtue signalling’. You tried to be nice.

No you're not. Did you jump to a conclusion? Yes. Was there any malice intended? No. Was she been a complete cock Womble in her reaction? Definitely. Don't let it put you off trying to do a good thing in the future!

How the fuck is that virtue signalling?

OP you tried to be nice and it was unappreciated. Don’t let it stop you being nice in the future.

Dang, when did someone being kind to another person become virtue signaling? I guess we should all just start being rude as fuck to each other, then?

Op, I am physically disabled. I appreciate anyone trying to assist me. If I don’t need help, I just politely decline. It would never occur to me to swear loudly at someone trying to do a good turn.

What a cow. Keep on being you.

Being visually impaired doesnt just happen to nice people. Sorry you had an unpleasant experience but you did the right thing.

And this is why people don’t do things like offer their seat on the tube or offer to pay someone’s bus fair if their card doesn’t work. She was rude and you were just being a decent human being! I hope she went home and had a think.

This happened to me before, offered help to someone I thought was struggling and was screamed at until I was out of ear shot.
It’s not a nice feeling but what can you do.

Yeeeah that's nothing like virtue signalling.

YANBU OP. She might have been having a bad day but she was incredibly rude.

Virtue signalling - lol, it's been ages since I've heard that tired old chestnut rolled out.....

regurgitating some old tired put down from nearly 10 year ago, you are so clever, you must be so proud of yourself!

YANBU - very rude woman

Don’t let it deter you from doing kind deeds in future, OP. You just met an ungracious, bad mannered person with zero social skills.
I think it might be more common in big cities, where there are such crowds of people that some folk don’t see them as individual humans and just regard them as a mass of objects to ignore or shout at if they impinge on them at all!
I was in a small town near me and saw a bloke on his own, loitering on the bridge, very close to the railings and looking at the river. I didn’t want to risk him jumping, so went over to ask him if he was ok or wanted to talk. He was rather surprised, then realised what I must have thought, and started laughing, but he thanked me for being concerned.
Your “blind” lady should have done the same - courtesy is for everyone and costs nothing.

YANBU you tried to help someone and got a load of abuse in return. Fine, so next time someone looks like they need help you won't bother offering. I guess the message is: wait to be asked.
But then there are the people who complain about the times it was obvious they needed help yet no one offered so maybe the message is: damned if you do damned if you don't.

SaucyJack

You got called out for your virtue signalling. Hold your hands up, and accept it.

You don't seem to understand what virtue signalling is.

YaNBU. Keep being you.
And I don't understand what virtue signalling means.

Virtue signalling my foot 😂

Anyway sometimes when I'm out and really bad though that's not often (as in I don't usually go out when I'm bad), people ask me if I'm ok and need any help. I'm always polite and would never dream of behaving so rudely.

You were being nice dont ever change. She was rude and bad tempered. Just assume she had a bad day and maybe the text she received wasnt good news. Dont dwell on it and please dont let this stoo you offering people help. I always try to offer help if i think someone needs it. Either they acceot and are grateful or they decline but are grateful or more rarely they are rude. Its a reflection on them not you.

You were a nice person offering to do a nice thing. All she had to say was "no thanks, I'm fine, I'm just reading a text"

As someone who has two blind relatives, that's exactly how they'd respond. Even if they didnt need your help they'd be pleased someone at least offered. In most situations people tend to exploit their disability. For instance, the times taxi drivers have dropped them off nowhere near where they need to be, and take their money, is appalling. Or the ones who just point blank refuse to help with directions when said taxi drivers have dumped them in a place they're not meant to be.

Of course it's not virtue signalling. Don't let one moody mare put you off helping others. I bet she's just had a rough day and probably feels bad for the way she spoke to you.

Sometimes people are just rude and she was rude. YANBU.