Would you pay "turn up" a polo shirt

[Nursejackie1]

So my ex has today decided that he thinks our sons school polo shirts for school are too long so he is taking them to a dry cleaners to have them turned up. Surely they will laugh. Each time he looks after the kids i come in to scrubbed clean lined up kids trainers when they were perfectly normal. Please tell me this is just too much as it drives me insane

They won't laugh. They'll be happy to take his money.

I would laugh though.

Well how long are they?

And is he buying new when they're too short?

They are slightly longer than his jumper. But since i pointed out that he could tuck them in/will grow soon after the turning up he's more determined which is generally how it goes.

Who bought the tshirts? If you did, i would be telling him that you are perfectly happy with the tshirts, if hes not he can purchase his own and have them taken up. He sounds very controlling!

Tuck them in?!

He bought them. I am under strict instructions never to tumble dry any of the clothes he has bought. Maybe that wluld just solve tge problem. He is the type to leave the house like a shit hole but complain about the most irrelevant tiny
thing.. Oh to above poster is tucking in bad?!
Years of being looked down on for not giving a shit about intricate insignificant details while i'm busy keeping my kids/me/pets alive has made this grind on me more than maybe it should. Carry on love turn up.those polo shirts of thats what your soul needs.

No, I meant why doesn’t he just tuck them in! Tucking in is perfectly fine and normal. He’s insane!

I kids I know tuck their shirts in!

Tuck them in, tumble dry them and tell him to fuck off.

He sounds very picky and controlling?!

He’s your ex. You no longer have to do what he says.

Why is he in your house to be able to scrub the trainers and line them up?

Buy your DS some polo shirts, tell your ex to do what he likes, but its not your problem, nor do you care. He is your ex, don't allow him to rule your life any more

I’d just leave him to his controlling power trips and make sure your dcs are grounded and see what is normal. You say your dcs are turned out perfectly fine just not pristine. That’s normal. Kids need to have fun, get dirty etc.

Years of being looked down on for not giving a shit about intricate insignificant details while i'm busy keeping my kids/me/pets alive has made this grind on me more than maybe it should.

That sounds draining, I am sorry .

I think that your ex is nuts! The dry cleaner might well think that he is eccentric but they also may well take his money. How old are the kids? Before long they will start protesting at this type of thing (surely a polo shirt that is too short is worse?)

Let him do it, if he bought them.

But forget about not tumble drying, etc.

Your house now - your rules.
Though when you say you come 'in' to 'scrubbed clean lined up' kids trainers , do you mean that your ex is spending time in your home with the DCs?

If your ex is in your home with the DCs this has to stop. You need to be able to call your life your own now that you are no longer together, and that starts with ex no longer able to interfere with how you do things in your home.
If not, ignore..

I'll do it if he sends me the money.

Thought this was going to be about turned up collars. That is 100% BU lol

Is he in your house? I don’t quite get the set up
And just let him crack on. They’ll charge him a fiver at least! Which I can’t imagine the shirts cost much more than.

Ha thanks for confirming its not normal lol. I work alot of shifts so in order for him to look after the kids he has to be at my house as his place isnt suitable. Not ideal but can't see a way round it for now.

Let him spend his money if it’s important to him.

When the kids grow he can unpick them.

Save your big guns for the important stuff.

He needs to find somewhere suitable.

You need him out of your house, or else you need to get locks on the doors of all the rooms he can't go into and all the cupboards he can't open. Him having the free run of your home is an open invitation to him to keep up his micro management and criticism and general emotional and psychological abuse of you.

It is very important for both you and for your children that this freedom on his part to do this to you ends. It is really bad for the children to see you henpecked like this, and your standards of housekeeping and care for the children overruled. It will affect their relationship with you and their self esteem. He is undermining your authority in your own home. This is intolerable.

You need to give him notice that from X date he will have to have the children at his own home and that this home will have to be suitable for children. Give him a reasonable time to find somewhere suitable - maybe a few months.

I realise you may be counting on him to provide free childcare, but for the sake of your emotional and psychological health, you need to swallow hard and pay for a babysitter for them.