To go to the police about what I saw?

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I was driving by a car park of a cafe (children’s play type) on my way home from work when I pulled in to take a call. I saw a woman hit and physically harm a man around the same age (early twenties), I think it was her boyfriend or husband. She was obviously distressed and shouting, he was cowering. They had small children with them. She drove away a few minutes later and he went back in to the cafe, visibly upset.

I made a note of her number plate as she drove away with one of the children. Would you phone the police, knowing that they could trace them from her number plate?

So domestic violence is ok in front of small children as long as the perpetrator is female?

@MrsSarahSiddons
Violence is violence, irrespective of the sex of the victim or perpetrator. Size has nothing to do with it.

(As in size of the adult).

MrsSarahSiddons That is a shocking view. What if that was your son? Just because one sex commits more violence than the other doesn't make it ok the other way around. I'm sure if it was a one off retaliation then the police will find that out.

read this
kareningalasmith.com/2014/04/14/can-you-give-me-a-link-to-counting-dead-men/

MrsSarahSiddons

Why is it pragmatic?

Its wrong and stupid but not pragmatic.

@MrsSarahSiddons what about the children? Are they immune from harm and distress if the violence they witness is perpetrated by a woman? Do you not think they need protecting?

@Nanasueathome

Thanks for correcting me! Complete Typo!!! I'm sure they'd be pretty confused!!

Those poor kids. Definitely call and I really hope the police act on it.

@MrsSarahSiddons

Noone is disputing the horrific statistics, but frankly, female to male violence still happens. It's a crime, simple as. In this case, in front of the children, it makes it worse.

I am strongly for women and against violence perpetrated against women.

I hate the ‘what about the menz’ derailing that happens often on threads about domestic violence.

But this is NOT what this thread is, and you are doing harm to feminist voices etc to start spouting such silly and out of place rhetoric here.

This is about a person being abused. And someone thinking they should report it.

Stop acting like this poor victim has decided to stage some kind of protest ripping funding off women’s refugee and shouting that his suffering invalidates all the opposite sexes... all the poor man has done is been Hit, and looked Scared, in public, in front of his/his abusers young children. That is IT.

For goodness sake.

No one has the right to hit anothe human being, and female on male physical violence is just as unacceptable as male on violence. Both suffer from stigma - it’s difficult to admit you’re a victim - and too often people turn a blind eye.

She needs a wake up call

Assault is assault, and domestic abuse applies to all family units and combinations. Please call the police.

Please call the police, it could possibly be the best thing to happen in his and their children’s lives.

Please call. Poor man, poor kids.

Yes it is assault/violence doesn't matter that it was a woman hitting a man or a man hitting a woman - it is wrong and the children are witness to domestic violence.

MrsSarahSiddons

Its sad that you can't see past your own prejudice to see a victim of violence.

Ignoring the crap about the asking because it’s the reverse of the stereotypical DV situation.....

Reluctance is because I know that I may not be helping him - police call, they say it’s all ok. Police leave and he gets it in the neck again. Been there myself!

Calling local DV/refuge in the morning and will go from there.

Op I don't know how the police will handle it from a domestic violence point of view but in terms of child welfare, this is critical. No child should witness something like that.