To feel hurt?

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First world problem.....am I being over sensitive?

A few years ago I won an award at work, I was over the moon about it, had worked exceptionally hard and delivered a number of big projects.

A new recipient has won this year, as they do every year and a comment was made on our online work account which read a little like this, for context person B I would consider a good work friend.

Person A - I’m so pleased to win, what an honour!

Person B - well done you should win it every year, I always think should be you.

Me - well done A!!!! Haha B, even on the year I won?

Person B - well yes, you should have been employee of the year, not leader

It has made me feel absolutely shit. What this person is saying is yes you are good, but not considered by me as leadership material.

I just feel really upset and down, I appreciate some people only see ‘leaders’.
In a certain way, but AIBU to feel totally demoralised and questioning whether others may feel like I wasn’t deserving and should have won another category?

Feeling so upset about this and questioning who I am perceived in the workplace - great employee but not leadership material?

Or am I over reacting and it’s not actually hurtful?

I think it's always hard for people to admit they were wrong. You asked them to say that what they had said earlier was wrong and they found a way to avoid doing that, while still saying that you deserved an award.

I think you were setting yourself up for disappointment by asking the question. Let it go.

You set yourself up for that.
Don't ask the question if you are not prepared for an answer you don't like.

Yes, you are over-reacting to be worrying about how you are perceived in your workplace. This is one person’s opinion.

Colleague B is weird.

Yes I totally see your point, I think of me I wouldn’t have been so blunt and coming from a friend I didn’t expect that reaction.

Guess I know how she feels now I suppose, but still makes me feel inadequate. I agree person A is totally outstanding, but I kind of thought I was regarded as similar, just a kick in the teeth, thanks x

Ask them about it.
My dad used to say Feedback is the breakfast of Champions. So you either stand to learn from whAt they say , or they will have an odd POV which you can quietly ignore. This is possibly the case, as they obviously have skewed judgement for thinking it’s a good idea to write the somewhat shit stirring comment in the first place.
Don’t just stew and feel bad about yourself.
It’s hard to hear though, I do get it.
But remember , the senior team obviously thought you deserved the award.

Whoever judged the awards thought you were deserving, and more deserving than Person A, given you got it before they did.

I completely understand why you're upset. B shouldn't have spoken on the work account about that. That way you'd be none-the-wiser and that would be better.

Well you did kind of walk in to that one. I’d you don’t want an honest answer then don’t ask the question...

By your own admission person A is outstanding so 🤷🏻‍♀️And tbh some people do make much better leaders than others

You walked into that. She was probably just being a bit gushy and nice to the other girl then you came in making it all about you

Corporate robot answer: If you’re feeling brave enough and have thick enough skin ask her to expand so you can become better.

Human answer: write her off as a poo head. Remind yourself you won the award so it must be justified. Try and shake it off and move on.

You shouldn't have asked the 'even me' bit. Looks v needy, also a bit not v nice to person A.