to be annoyed at moaning over childcare?

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Just that, really. 3 DCs under 5. I look after them. DH happy to look after them sometimes to give me a break... BUT whenever I get back, all he does is moan about how awful it's been. He's also fine to pay for childcare (Childminders, part time nursery & I contribute financially too), but always moans about the people doing that.

The only way we get a moan-free life is if I look after the kids. I love the kids, but AIBU to feel a bit miffed/put upon? Or should I just get on, ignore it and concentrate on counting my many blessings? He works long hours & does loads at home too, a lovely man in all respects except the moaning!

Tell him to stop bloody moaning as its doing your head in, they are his kids too.

also increase the times you go out and leave him to it - tell him he needs more practice

whatever you do, do NOT stop going out and taking a break. This is what he is ultimately aiming for, probably - do NOT let him get his way.

Thanks! I have tried pointing it out, but he just gets stressed. I think he genuinely finds looking after them really hard. My way of helping with that so far has just been... to do it. I like the idea of more practice! Just don't know if I could stand the stress. Earplugs maybe...?

Flip it and say it's not objectively hard, he's just shit at it because he's a novice who hasn't practised it enough. Tell him to think of it as like acquiring a skill to a high level -- you have to put the hours in.

I find the best responce yo DH with this stuff is my best, most sarcasticly enthusiastic brass band impression followed by a round of of applause and deadpan 'Wow well done you' then walk away

to the brass band! I like both of those suggestions, probably for the sake of peace and unity might go for the 'acquiring a new skill' approach...