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To still be hoping for a call six months later

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Pukepukepuke · 05/09/2018 22:39

I got sick of a very good good friend about six months ago for making absolutely no effort with me and letting me down again and again and again. She has form for it over the thirty years we’ve been friends but things have been strained I would imagine at both ends as she’s struggling to conceive and isn’t working and I have small children and work. I got thoroughly sick of making an effort when she constantly was saying how busy she was and decided to not call her and she hasn’t called me. i went through a stage of thinking I was doing the right thing and then the wrong thing and I miss her but I’m just cross about what a shit friend she’s been when I’ve bent over backwards. I just need to let it go don’t i. I think I was thinking if I didn’t call she’d miss me but she obviously doesn’t and I feel so hurt. I keep thinking maybe she never liked me anyway but then I think it can’t have been one sided for all the years.

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Dollymixture22 · 05/09/2018 22:47

Really sorry - I totally understamd how you feel. It’s a big loss.

I realised his with a friend about a year ago. All contact was from me and I was starting to feel really needy just for dropping her a text! So I stopped. I was the one having a rough time and she never once checked in on me. So I just let it go. It’s hard and I keep thinking I’ll just send a text to see how she is - but it makes me feel rubbish about myself, doing all the running. So no.

If she wanted to be your friend she would be in touch, sorry.

Pukepukepuke · 05/09/2018 22:54

I Keep thinking I should text her because what if she’s miserable and then I remember how miserable I was and how she didn’t answer her phone or call me back and I’d feel like shit because why am I chasing someone. Whenever I eventually got in touch with her it was always lovely and we’d always have a great time together but I was really ill and she doesn’t even know or seemingly care about me st all.

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whatwouldkeithRichardsdo2 · 05/09/2018 22:57

Like all kinds of no contact, there are moments of wobble. You're wobbling. Divert your attention back to doing something for you.

Singlenotsingle · 05/09/2018 23:00

If she was miserable she'd text you, wouldn't she? Or she's got other people in her life who fill that gap.

AlphaBravo · 05/09/2018 23:00

Delete her number. Problem solved.

Pukepukepuke · 06/09/2018 20:42

I know it off by heart. I bet she doesn’t know mine off by heart. It’s a total wobble

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