To think I should be over this by now?

[3YearsIsTooLong]

I was sexually assaulted three years ago. It wasn't rape and truthfully wasn't that serious so I know I shouldn't still be thinking about it but it's like I can't help it.

It will creep into my thoughts sometimes when I'm least expecting it and I just end up feeling sick and dirty. I can still feel his hands on him and I just want him off .

I shouldn't still be thinking about this should I?

I reported it but the police couldn't do anything because he denied it and there wasn't enough evidence.

He hate the fact he got away with it but I still remember what he did .

Hi OK, sorry to hear what happened to you.

There's no timeline on feeling the effects if trauma like this. Can you access some counselling? X

Who says you should be over it? Who decides the timescale?
I'm so sorry the police couldn't do anything. Have you been able to confide in anyone in RL?

The worst part is that I let him do it .

I froze when it happened and didn't know what to do.

DP knows and I have had some counselling.

I should be over it because it wasn't that serious and people go through a lot worse every day.

But obvioiusly I can't handle it.

**I froze when it happened
That is not the same as "letting it happen" and don't ever let yourself believe that it is.
There's no timeline for this sadly.

There's no cut off point for feelings re traumatic events so don't feel bad OP. I was groped by a handyman the Landlord sent round: 4years later I'm still jumpy if someone walks close behind me on a quiet side street or I'm in a lift with a male stranger. It will take time.

I still shudder at my cousin's boyfriend attacking me at his house (was 17 now 45)... I was fortunate to be wearing dungarees at the time and in comparison it was 'not that serious' but it still makes me angry and distressed the feeling of helplessness and panic ..my cousin laughing...if there wasn't an adult in the house who heard me shouting ... what would have happened?? every now and again it's on my mind and I'm grateful...I told my DDs about it to help them understand not to trust everyone and make wise decisions x

You didn't let him. That's not true. The freezing is a self protection thing. If you fight you might end up even worse off. So the brain won't let you. It's not a conscious decision.
Not that serious? It's not assault top trumps. It must have been awful. And worse happens every day? Just because dreadful things happen doesn't mean that something like what happened to you isn't bloody awful and should never have happened. I'm sorry OP.

Go back to counselling, or look for another counsellor. If you still need to work through it, you still need to work through it. There's no time limit.

I guess you're right and that I should begin counselling again. Just been so preoccupied lately now I hsve DS that I haven't had a chance to go back but I will defintley look into it.

*have.

I'm also annoyed that he thought he had the right to do what he did. Slimy little fucker