To think some mnetters are right spoonfuls of dour sourness.

[Lydiaatthebarre]

No matter how lighthearted, innocuous or mild the topic of a thread they will always find a reason to snipe, bitch, sneer or belittle. I'm seeing it more and more on AIBU - good humoured or jokey threads killed stone dead by posters who can't wait to jump on and drag it down some miserable cup de sac, cutting off any chance of a bit of fun or friendly empathising with one of life's minor but recognisable dilemmas.

AIBU to find this really annoying and irritating?

‘So it's a PA TAAT?’

Absolutely sooty! Which is really annoying and irritating

But it's not about people having different attitudes makingmammaries, it's about people coming onto lighthearted, non serious threads and killing them stone dead.

It's happening more and more on MN, and it's taking a lot of the fun and pleasure out of posting. If people find certain threads silly or pointless then just don't post on them. Would you go up to a group of people having a laugh about something daft in the canteen and start ticking them off and taking offence?

Great expression OP!

The pets AIBU thread is light-hearted

Some reactions in responce to my post about cats broke that noble tradition. Nothing is sacred these days ;)

‘So it's a PA TAAT?’

I read this and wondered what Peter Andre had to do with it. Then I realised I spend too much time reading Digital Spy Showbiz

Yanbu, I sometimes whether such posters act the same IRL situations, or are actually just using MN as a portal for any pent up rage. There was a similar thread a couple of days ago which got deleted so this probably will too.

OP #be the change.

Another annoying song for us all to sing!

🎵 🎶 “Just a spoonful of sour makes the mumsnet go dowwwwwn, the mumsnet go dowwwwwn” 🎶 🎵

A TAAT about cats complaining about people on MN not all being lovely. Have I got that right?

No a TAAT where people were talking about walking. The OP of this thread said on there that she'd seen a thread about people derailing light hearted threads but she's nevertheless felt compelled to start her own.

The last time I used the word dour I was accused of being racist. I daren't use it again.

Dour eh

Makes me think of an old maid

That's what you think, golden bug

Ah, another 'you're all bitches' thread, but with a slightly different insult.

Sometimes though, a belief that you're being 'lighthearted' is actually having a passive aggressive dig at someone or some people and when that's pointed out having a wide eyed, but I'd never do that response from OP and others is bloody irritating. Accept your being a bitch with a smile and most people would move on.

@SD1978 - you sound like you enjoy imposing your will on others "accept that I'm right and move on". Yeah.No.

I recently noticed how bad this has become on a thread about a Year 1 aged child whose Grandmother had promised him a much wanted gift and let him down, her sister had bought the child's cousin the much wanted toy and it was being rubbed in his face.

The level of vitriol aimed at both the mother and her poor sad child was frankly astounding as was the total virtue signalling
around how THEIR child would be the model of understanding. It almost felt like some people were writing actual fiction in their attempts to fall over themselves to out parent. Pure frothing at the mouth.

Completely unnecessary nastiness

I do find a lot of posts on here can be a bit dull in their responses to be honest and the threads that end up in "omg that's hilarious it needs to go in classics " anything but hilarious . I think with text you lose so much "meaning " behind the words that it's hard to take them as they are maybe intended . Wereas in real life most people I know I can have interesting and funny conversations with

Am I the only one who absolutely loathes the phrase “virtue signal”?

@SpringSnow- the inclusion of sometimes is not an imposition of will- and wasn't written aggressively. However similar to some of the allegedly 'lighthearted' threads, disagreement that it is 'lighthearted' leads to copping abuse. Good on you.

@SpringSnow- it posted before I could also add, and sometimes it does seem a race to miserableness. But not all the time, it seems fairly mixed.

@StitchingMoss it's not a great phrase but it describes "my values are clearly better than yours" style posts succinctly and well

@SD1978 - you sound like you enjoy imposing your will on others "accept that I'm right and move on". Yeah.No.

Come on now Springsnow that's not what SD1978 wrote, is it?

Now that's one of my pet hates and almost guaranteed to make me dour and sour. If you're going to try and use a poster's words against them at least quote the actual words they used not some you've selectively snipped out of context then added a few of your own and given a twist to.

No this isn't a thread about a thread. It's one I've been thinking of starting for a while and I've seen several examples of this behaviour this week so that spurred me on.

Obviously people are going to have different opinions, but it's the people who take umbrage at anything, no matter how innocuous, or seem to think everything, no matter how light or trivial, has some dark undertone that really drag threads down.

Sometimes people just want to discuss, in a non too serious way, some of the minor irritants of life. They're not veiling some other intent but sadly some posters seem to see nastiness and I'll intent everywhere