Self-righteous disgust and how you voice it in RL

[BloodyDisgrace]

Let's admit it, life is full of irritants. Smokers who "smell like smokers". Fat people. Pets on kitchen tops in the houses of people you never met. Your friends' unhygienic habits/dirty houses. Someone eating loudly. Someone asking you to take your shoes off in their house and giving you their worn slippers. The possibilities are endless.

Do you go "Eww... boak, yuk, how disgusting!" to their faces in real life? or only here? Do you really think being disgusted gives you a right to be impolite/shaming someone/humiliating them? Or that you have 2 options: stay quiet, or say something gently and politely so you are not inconvenienced by the difference in the squeamishness levels?

I believe that shaming someone is counterproductive and rude, and is only done to make you feel better about yourself, at the expense of another.

Are you researching this for any particular reason OP? What do you do yourself on this topic?

I'm kinda impressed that there are still people trying to enforce standards of good behaviour on the internet in 2018.

I had to learn to give up on my Ex behaving in what I would think of as a reasonable way. I'm not going to try to force people on the internet to do so either. It's a lost battle.

But fair play to you for still having the outrage to want to try.

Heh, it's not about standards of good behaviour on internet. It's about, dunno, being kinder to other people who are different? For attitudes translate into behaviour.
I'm not a journalist, god no. No paper will give me that job :) There's only one thing so far I found difficult - BO - but whatever it is that disgusts me, I never show it and discretely move away if possible.
I don't know how well it answers the questions.

I'm a fat smoker with 2 cats who sometimes get on the work surfaces. People are free to express their opinions to me as they will.

I reserve the right of reply though......

Complaining publicly is counterproductive. They won't change. Fat people won't suddenly become thin. Smokers will continue to smoke. They'll just think what a rude, obnoxious person you are. Live and let live is the best policy.

Quite agree with Singlenotsingle.
You're not obliged to mix with people whose habits you don't like. Chill out. Good job you're not a housing or social worker.

('scuse me while I just put sausages in the oven and feed the cats, one of whom has been asleep on a pile of clean washing.)

Quangot - since you asked and I don't want to ignore the question :)
I'm a smoker with 2 indoor cats who sit on kitchen tops and I gave up chasing them; I change bed linen less often than MN-prescribed once a week; I eat with a fork only having cut everything with a knife. I have friends who eat loudly and we're still friends, and despite my terrible crimes agains humanity I still have friends who love visiting.
I never "eewed" anyone, or said how disgusted I was (even if I were), and others I dealt with were equally nice to me. People ask about perfume I use rather than that I "stink because I'm a smoker". I've been treated kindly in real life and just wish others had the same.