To fail so hard at this

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I have been off work sick with stress for a while now, and suffer from anxiety and some depression.

I've come to the conclusion that I need to hand in my notice, I've been procrastinating terribly, the idea of even opening my laptop to write it makes me want to vomit, I tried googling templates but I can't make myself read them. I can't ask for real life help as I don't have anybody who could do that.

I want to cry. It's such a stupid thing, I'll feel so much better having done it but I can't. I'm fixated on the idea of my boss thinking "I'll give her until 4pm/friday/lunchtime (it changes) before starting disciplinaries", I then get to 4pm and think, well maybe he's making a cup of tea...and then it gets to 5 and think, he's probably leaving for home and it's a relief but then it starts up again at 9am the next day.

This is absurd I know, but given my sick note is out of date so this can't carry on forever and eventually I will be fired. I wish somebody could just do it for me but there's nobody and I'd still have to read it/send it. I tell myself every day I'll do it after 5pm, when it's less likely to be spotted on our messenger system (auto log in, need to log in to be able to go invisible) but I never do it.

I don't even know what I'm asking, sorry. It's pathetic but I seem to have no control or will power to do this thing and it's vital.

To add, I've also told my family/friends I've already done it so can't now ask for help, they'd be shocked at my crapness

Can you phone instead of write? Then you'll have no choice but to say what you have to say?

If you've been off sick for a while your boss may well be expecting it anyway?

I would tell someone you trust that you need help with it, if they are a true friend/family member they won't judge you - I wouldn't!

Can you not have your sick note extended? It sounds as if you are still struggling with anxiety.

Otherwise go with:

Dear Boss,

Unfortunately as you know I have been suffering with ill health. Sadly I can no longer continue in employment and therefore am tendering my resignation with immediate effect.

Yours Sincerely
SuperLamb

Agree with Cath2907 Keep it short and to the point. No need for lengthy explainations or apologies. Just state the facts. Due to ill health you are tendering your resignation.
Sorry you feel so awful. Get this done and then concentrate on getting well.

Do you actually want to resign? Or are you just trying to avoid any disciplinary measures by doing so?

From reading your post it sounds like you are catastrophising about the disciplinary issues. I do this too, I go straight to what is the worst thing that could happen.

I would have thought that if your sick note is out of date the first thing that would happen would be a polite email asking for a new one, not straight to disciplinary.

If you do actually want to resign, and that's a well thought out decision not affected by your depression / anxiety, then I suggest breaking it down into steps to make the process of doing it easier. The scary bit is pressing send at the end, so there isn't anything scary about writing it as that doesn't commit you to anything. You could write it on a non work computer to avoid the logging in issue, then send to yourself. Then attach it to an email. Only at the last stage after pressing send will anyone else know anything about it. And it's easier to take that final step once you have everything else written.

All the best.

Get your sick note extended again and again until you are ready to go back. This might take you beyond them paying you and only paying statutory sick pay, and maybe leading to termination of contract due to ill health - but this route puts the decisions in their court. This is what my DP did 4 years ago - now on benefits and is still to ill to work.

You need to get another sick note, then arrange counselling and antidepressants if relevant to give yourself some time to decide what to do.

I had 5 months of last year with stress and I hated he whole going to dr for sicknote etc. I went back to work for a while and quickly handed in my notice but I had to work several more months until I would leave.