I know IABU, but really struggling - leaving 18 month old.

[Skittlelover]

Hi everyone,

Feel really ridiculous but my dh and I are going for 2 nights away at the weekend. We have never both left our 18 month old overnight. He will be with loving grandparents who see him regularly.

I'm just feeling so anxious about leaving him. I feel like something awful might happen to him or us. I'm 24 weeks pregnant so I think that my hormones don't help!
I keep panicking and crying about this trip and I really don't want to spoil it for my dh who is so supportive.
Please give me a kick up the butt and tell me it will be fine!
Thanks.

I was exactly the same as you when I had to leave DC2 for some reason I was fine leaving DC1.

Honestly though as soon as we were free it was like a huge weight had lifted. Like I could finally relax and enjoy myself.

It was great!

I left my two (4 and 3) with my mum for 2 nights a couple of weeks ago. I’ve never been gone longer than a night before. We were driving a long way for a wedding and I was petrified DH and I were going to have a car accident and die, and not come home to them. I’m also 24 weeks pregnant and put it down to that as I’m usually very rational .
Obviously we’re fine and did come home. The DC had a great time with their grandmother. It’ll be fine!

Of course it will be fine!

DC will spend time getting spoilt by his grandparents and will have a ball. It’s better doing this now for something fun than waiting for a forced separation when you go into labour with DC2.

I won’t say at what age I left dd with my parents for the first time as I’d probably get roasted, but it’s meant she is very close to her GPs which is so valuable.

Your DC will grow up having a lovely relationship with grandparents if they look after him regularly. For various reasons, my DCs don’t have that, and it’s such a shame. I get your worry but he will be fine.

Thanks everyone, I know I just need to keep remembering he will be fine and we can have fun without him on occasion!

You'll feel better once you've dropped him off and you're on your way.

Just remember that his GP have brought up their own children with nothing catastrophic happening and will take very good of him, even watching him more than you would ime. Have fun!