Me and my boyfriend have been together for 16 months. I met his kids in April and have seen them a few times since then. We met with all our kids together the other week and spoke afterwards about what to do in future. A few weeks ago he asked me what I saw the next step in our relationship. I said that I think over the next year I saw our relationship becoming more embedded, spending more time together with the kids and being more part of each other’s lives. He said he agreed. Yesterday I asked him about next meeting up with the kids. He changed the subject. I then said I’ve been giving it some thought and to let me know his thoughts. He asked for me thoughts. I spoke about how we could fit in meet ups in line with his shifts and seeing his kids which works on a 4 week rota (they don’t live with him, mine lives with me). He has his kids for 2 weekends out of the month and for a full week attached to one of those weekends. The other weekend is at the end of a period where he hasn’t had them for about 10 days. I said that I thought he’d want them to himself on the weekend where he hasn’t had them but sugggested we could do something on the weekends he has them all week. I added that if he wanted to, we could have a quick meet up on the weekend when he hasn’t had them, just to keep contact going but had already acknowledged what I thought his views would be about this weekend. He confirmed he wanted to keep the weekend where he hasn’t had them to him and the kids. He didn’t say anything else so i again asked what his thoughts were and suggested that he could let me know as I had no idea. He just replied with what felt like an abrubt message with no kisses saying that he can see that I’m back on with the 4 week cycle again meaning that I’m arranging things according to that. I replied saying that I was as it makes sense seem as though everything revolves around that. I added that of course I wasn’t saying anything needed to be rigid and I was just wanting an idea of how things were going to progress so I can factor this into my arrangements. He didn’t reply for a few hours however was at work. He did read the messages and it’s very very unusual for him to read and not reply. I said I felt like I had said something to upset him and worried that he may have misinterpreted what I was suggesting. I added that I was in no way wanting to be pushy or rush things. I never got a proper reply. He just at said ‘don’t mine me, I’m knackered and my back hurts. Need a shower and bed’ which was when he got home from work at 10:30. I just replied that I didn’t know what to say and he replied saying that I didn’t need to say anything and we can make plans today. I’ve been left feeling like I did something wrong. Am I being unreasonable in what I suggested? I really don’t think I am. We are supposed to be in a long term committed relationship in the process of progressing a future together. I’m so confused 😞😞