To be sick of being unwell?!?!

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So I’m mid 20’s, healthy BMI, eat my 5 a day most days and cycle everywhere.

I started an awesome new job in April and since then Pretty much since then have been constantly unwell.

I had the depo shot 4 months ago which made me bleed solidly for weeks. I’ve always been anaemic but manage it via diet as iron tablets make me more unwell than the being anaemic does!! So I was really rundown and unwell from that but on top kept picking up cold viruses back to back one bad enough to require a week off work and lost my voice...etc.

I then got a D&V bug that was going around the office (boss and DP both got it so I stood no chance. It lasted almost 2 weeks for me though when others were only 2-3 days. Within days of recovering (ish) I got an infected wisdom tooth and ended up in A&E, then emergency dentist, strong antibiotics and couldn’t eat...etc. Another week off work. I finally felt better and have recently enjoyed almost a week of good health until tonight, I’m snotty, sore throat and migraines.

I’m also super bloated, gassy and suffering cramps all the time as the injection only recently wore off and my cycle hasn’t reestablished at all.

I feel disgusting and it’s impacting my mental health/ relationship.
I’m miserable and DP is depressed living with my misery and not being able to help.

My office has been CRAZY cold all summer with the Air Con and I don’t think that helps, but they did give me a space heater and I take my hot water bottle in.

Have you been to the doctors or struggling on?

I went when I had the infected wisdom tooth got a very ‘poor you, you’ll pull through soon’ reception.

I think you probably need to sit with your gp and probably have some bloods done. Have you got any annual leave booked?

A blood test sounds like a good idea. If you're young and otherwise live a healthy lifestyle then it might be worth looking at why you're so run down.

you might not be managing your anaemia through diet. i’d suggest getting a blood test to check. i use ferrous bisglycinate to manage my anaemia, its gentle on my stomach.

you might have low vitamin D or B12. if you want some good vitamins id suggest liquid D3 by Solgar, or methyl b12.

they have made a MASSIVE difference to how often i get ill.

do you have digestive issues? IBS/coeliac can cause malabsorption so you end up needing higher doses via supplements.

another thing that has helped my immune system is lifting weights. also carry a hand sanitizer with you!

just to say im same age as you, normal weight, exercise etc.

the last few years i had food poisoning, infected wisdom tooth, colds/flus, coldsores, tonsillitis but since taking those steps i just get an occasional cold.

No advice but total sympathy. I started in my current role and within a few months had my first ever bout of tonsillitis. I ended up getting it so many times I had them removed a year later! My work were getting seriously pissed about my absence level (missed out on funding for qualification because of it) but I couldn't do anything, I was almost constantly on antibiotics and could not get well enough to be at work.

Hope you get checked out and feel better soon.

I was getting sick mainly with recurring chest infections every other month. Then I found out my vitamin D levels were very low. I had very high doses and I'm a new person.
Go ASAP to your gp and ask for blood tests to determine your levels of B12, D, thyroid and see if you are low.
I hope you get better soon.

I agree that you need a bit of help from a sympathetic GP to try and get to the bottom of this. Even given the aggressive AC, needing a space heater and hot water bottle throughout the summer we've just had doesn't strike me as normal. Does the awesome job give you access to a private GP? It sounds like you'd benefit from talking through your lifestyle and symptoms with someone who has the time to look at quite a big picture. I have a few thoughts but IANAD.

I have been chronically ill for the last two years and trying to find a medication that will work. My job has been very understanding but I know they are pissed off... I'm seriously ill so they kind of have to be. Hospital, doctor appointments several times a month. Side effects and immuno suppressed so I catch everything going... On top of my condition. I spend all day, everyday I chronic pain.... I'm tired of being sick... Being warned of depression now and I know I have to fight it...

I can’t speak to the medical issues but one thing stuck out to me in your post. It doesn’t feel right to me that your DH is depressed because of your illnesses. He should be the one supporting you, taking care of you and telling you it’s all going to be OK. Being depressed means he doesn’t have to do those things. Perhaps he has other MH issues but if the only problem is your issues, and you have no reason to believe it’s super serious, I think he needs to man up and not whine about his problems. You deserve support and help while you figure out what’s going on.

Thanks for all your advice I’m gonna call my GP today and get an appointment.

*to clarify in terms of DP, depresssed was a bad choice of word, sad or frustrated would have been more appropriate. He looks after me extremely well and is endlessly loving and patient.