Was this wrong of me? Was he BU?

[Aanniilleess]

Had my 3 best friends over last night, all guys, so plenty male ego flying round my living room.

So friend one (R), has been learning to play the guitar and he showed us a video of what he did a few days ago, he was super proud, and it actually was pretty skilful and nice. Friend two (E), who has been playing guitar for longer, shot him down so fast . He had this like weird outburst of saying, 'it wasn't THAT good, you hyped that up too much, you think you're a god'. R was proper hurt by this and got pretty pissed off by this comment. I said to E that he was being quite a 🛎end, and there was no need to shoot him down like that. I got quite infuriated and gave my points . Then things of course got awkward after.
I don't think I was but WIBU? It wasn't my place to butt in I know, but the way E just ripped his heart out and stood on it after R was so proud really was so shitty to see. He's supposed to be his friend! I just can't stand people who shit on people's dreams like that, and put them down .

Choose better friends.

There was probably a better way to address it than telling E off but essentially YANBU. I'd have probably ignored E altogether and addressed my comment to R...

"Ignore this tit, R, he's forgotten what learning is. I thought it was amazing, you're really coming along."

How old are you all? What actually happens is fair enough, but for it to bother you enough you need your actions validated the next day? Sounds like children.

@Childrenofthestones they're great friends. 7 years we've all been close. We were just so shocked at E's condescending behaviour.

I’m sure you’ll all be friends again by the end of the school day.

(proper hurt)
(ripped his heart out and stood on it)
(shit on people's dreams)

Bit over dramatic op.
Why didn't R just tell E to sod off.

Not sure why you were infuriated.

E has outed himself as a knob.

Well shit. I'm not sure if I worded it badly, but I don't understand all the childish comments? Is this a site with mother's or immature teens? Cause there's quite a bit of pettiness in some of these replies already.

I'm 27 by the way. Just wanted a second opinion because yes, it's been playing on my mind all morning. But it's whatever. Good job(!) .

Might want to 're read that last sentence for explanation as to why you sound a bit immature

You're massively over reacting, with my friends (especially the men)comments along the lines of 'look at you Eric Clapton' would've probably been made, in a tongue in cheek, piss takey way, this would've been responded to with something along the lines of 'at least I don't look as old as Eric Clapton' we all would've laughed and got on with the night. No one 'stamped on his dreams' he's 27 and learning to play an instrument FFS. I think you've interpreted the situation badly and gone in all guns blazing and made the whole thing awkward, and the fact you're dwelling on it today is just odd. You really don't sound 27 from your posts.

All sounds very teenagery from here, sorry OP.

Making a joke would have been a better way to respond, if at all. There is a lot of non verbal body language that would have expressed your disapproval.

My teens are great at this, perfect your eye rolling.

5Seconds' response would've been spot on IMO. You were right to pull E up on his unkind comments but perhaps overreacted a bit. But well done for defending your friend. Chalk it up to experience OP.

The responses are as they are op, because it's a really strange post.
Person A was being a knob, was I ok to call him a knob?
Well, rather obviously, yes, that's fine.

I dont understand.. this sounds like hormonal/moody teenage behaviour. Are you just wanting to point out your 3 best friends are dudes?

E didn’t like R showing off, particularly when he’s better at the thing and doesn’t show off. Rather than smiling quietly to himself he lashed out.

R liked the attention and praise he got for showing off and didn’t like being put in his place by someone better. Rather than diffusing the tension he lashed out.

Rather than laughing at them both for being so ridiculous you took sides and no doubt further dented E’s ego while infantilising R.

And you can’t see why everyone thinks this is childish? If just one of you had behaved better it could have been resolved amicably.

The last conversation I was involved in that ran like this was when I was 13 at a sleepover and involved dancing prowess.

As for “stomping on his dreams” he’s in his twenties learning guitar for the first time - what dreams?

There's no way you are 27.

Not sure what you hoped to gain by posting this, validation for being a caring person? Validation for having male friends? I'm sure most people have an issue with 'people who shit on people's dreams' but surely you can appreciate this is some banter that got out of hand and really not worth getting stressed about.

I cannot stand when people try to poke fun at another's passion or excitement. There's no reason for it.

Very strange comments on here, given that mums in the playground, who are generally aged over 30, behave in a very bitchy way! There's no age limit on being silly!

No one likes the guy who pisses on people's chips. You were right to stick up for friend R, it goes without saying. Friend E is jealous and immature. It's not worth agonising over though. It'll resolve itself. Don't invest or engage further in the incident. It's past.

As for the replies here, MN is an army of keyboard warriors, OP. It has its good point though.

I suppose you felt you had to reply strongly because E had an outburst (from your point of view), and you felt you needed to neutralise it for R's sake.

Not ideal on anyone's part, but we're not perfect and sometimes people do have outbursts.

The main thing is how you all move on from this. Is it still awkward? Maybe talk to E and clear the air? Maybe ask him why he reacted like that? Is there something in his life, was he jealous, does he think you all don't appreciate his playing?

Very strange comments on here, given that mums in the playground, who are generally aged over 30, behave in a very bitchy way! There's no age limit on being silly!

Exactly! Half the posts on AIBU are grown people acting in a certain way that's not always "mature" so I don't know why the OP is getting a hard time.

You were right to stick up for him OP, it was nasty behaviour towards another friend.

Unless your friend R is suffering from depression or some other condition whereby small slights become magnified into enormous insults I really don't understand why a) another friend being a pompous jackass would 'rip his heart out' or 'stomp on his dreams' and b) why you had to step in on his behalf.
YANBU for sticking up for a friend. WANBU for wondering if you are in fact a 27 year old parent as the tone of the whole encounter is very melodramatic for banter between friends..