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AIBU?

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Can someone help me cope

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Icantcope4thsept · 04/09/2018 01:36

I’m not sure if I’m posting in the right place , I just really need some advice will try to give as much info as possible without being too outing

On Saturday I was sexually assaulted whilst I was asleep by a stranger , I can’t cope I can’t sleep I feel like I can’t breathe he has been identified and arrested I’m falling apart what do I do ?

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Merryoldgoat · 04/09/2018 01:52

I have no idea how you feel but please phone The Samaritans. If you think you are in danger of hurting yourself you must go to A&E.

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with such a terrible thing

ana18 · 04/09/2018 01:55

I'm so sorry to hear this has happen to you I had similar experience. I please urge u to go to your nearest sexual health clinic / rape crisis centre .

Whereabouts are you I can help advise where to go they can offer you support also .

I know U must be feeling terrible but believe me it gets better but what u go now is very important

ana18 · 04/09/2018 01:57

Where abouts are you I can google where you are to go for support ? I have been through this and I can assure it it's gets better . I will help u as much as I can xx

justilou1 · 04/09/2018 01:59

Oh honey... you definitely need to get help right now. Grab a grind or family member you can trust and get to A&E or a GP. Go to the police, get whatever counseling they can refer you to. I say this as someone who was sexually assaulted 32 years ago and wasn’t given counseling. I have only recently realized how deeply I have buried the trauma and have been suffering from ptsd and flashbacks for years. It really DOES help, and it can help quickly.

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Icantcope4thsept · 04/09/2018 01:59

I just can’t process what’s happened thank you both for replying the police have my clothes dna etc , The circumstances of this are just horrible but far too outing my child was present when it happened I can’t stop with the what ifs , thank you for even replying

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ana18 · 04/09/2018 02:02

tel:0808 802 9999 is a rape crisis line I advise you call

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Icantcope4thsept · 04/09/2018 02:05

Thank you ana that’s really helpful xx

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ana18 · 04/09/2018 02:19

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Please trust me there is a lot of support available please use this support as another person mentioned these things can catch up on years later if not dealt with now I know myself too. But seems like you've done right thing as you mentioned clothing and police and dna. You've been incredibly strong already you will get through this x

Havabiscuit · 04/09/2018 02:20

💐 so sorry op. Nothing to add to advice already given

ana18 · 04/09/2018 02:36

I wish u the best, please message me if I can help anymore I will try my best x

xotyl · 04/09/2018 02:48

That's horrible, I'm so sorry that happened to you. Take as much support as you are offered, if you can get something to help you sleep take it. Look after yourself it will get easier to cope and it will not feel like this in a weeks time. Every day will get better, you just have to keep going and trusting that you can come through this. 💐

moredoll · 04/09/2018 03:10

I am so sorry this happened. You have done the right thing in contacting the police. The passage of time will make it easier to come to terms with. Take all the support you can find.

Rainbowqueeen · 04/09/2018 03:40

Handholding OP. I hope you are able to call the number Ana suggested.

Sleephead1 · 04/09/2018 06:49

so sorry that's awful especially your child being in the house. i had a Similar situation but nowhere near aa bad as i dont think he had sex with me but will never know exactly what happened I was 17 he was a friend I was sleeping at his flat and went to bed alone woke the next morning to his fingers Inside me and in a lot of pain I don't know what happened or how long it went on for but dont think he had sex with me so nowhere near as bad as but for me that's been hard the not knowing having no answers but I never did anything about it / I told one friend that's it. I think you have done so well and been so brave and would advise contacting rape crisis. Sending my best wishes and hope you have support in real life aswell.

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Icantcope4thsept · 04/09/2018 08:04

Thank you everyone it’s the not knowing what he did , The thought he could have touched my child I don’t know who he is , I’ve been told in due course who he is and I’m not sure if that’s worse my heads just spinning thanks for all the support xx

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Sleephead1 · 04/09/2018 17:47

so sorry again I can't imagine how scary it was for you knowing your child was there. The not knowing is the hardest part for me I just wish I could know what happened and why then I feel I could be at peace with it ( I'm early 30s now so it was such s long time ago ) but the not knowing is unsettling . I hope you get answers and take care of yourself

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