To find out the sex of the baby for my DS?

[Riotheparrott]

I'm 27 weeks so could have found out weeks ago but didn't. DS is 3 and keeps asking whether it's a boy or a girl. I really think we should find out and do a little gender reveal party just with us 3 ? However DH doesn't want to know the sex so I would be unreasonable to do this without both of us on-board wouldn't I?

Nah! Id find out!

Yes you would. If you want to know you could find out and keep it secret, but a small child will not be able to keep it quiet and your DH doesn't want to know. Just tell your DS that you will know when the baby arrives and it will be a lovely surprise.

You can't possibly expect a 3 year old not to tell your husband though

Ime finding out and giving sibling a name goes a long way in avoiding jealousy between the older dc and the baby!

My DD was desperate to know and we were happy to find out but baby was in wrong position so we said she could help chose the names for a boy/girl instead. We took her out for a meal when I was around 31ish weeks and whilst waiting for courses, discussed and voted on the short list of first names. (Had already sorted the middle names.) She felt so grown up bless her and DD2’s name won the family vote and we had great fun trying different names with the surname and middle name and then shortened versions.

Guess I'll have to put up with the questions for the next 13 weeks from DS then. No way would I do it without DH permission but I wanted to get a cupcake and watch DS bite into it

I wouldn't find out if DH didn't want to know - a 3 year old is incapable of keeping such a secret

Why not tell ds that it is going to be a big surprise when the baby comes?

I think you should find out and tell him..he won't keep it a secret but it would help prepare him for his new sibling which is really important.