RUDE?

[Lynne1Cat]

I've just been for my mammogram. The woman there was very pleasant and we were chatting, and I said: "Do you ever get fed-up of handling bosoms?" (the nurse has to hold them, move them about on the plate thing of the scanner, and pick them up again) I was feeling self-conscious, as I'm a G cup.

She replied, "That's rather rude". I apologised, said I didn't mean to cause offence. We carried on chatting about diets, mothers, nothing in particular.

WAS I being rude?

I don't think you did anything wrong, although she might have interpreted it as implicit criticism. She should have realised that you were just nervous!

I'm a teacher and if parents are rude about my job I have to stay professional, so I think she shouldn't have 'challenged' you the way she did. If it's outside of work it's a different story though! If it had been me I'd have probably laughed and said no (even if inwardly I might have been a bit offended).

So no, you weren't rude, please don't worry about it.

The PP who asked about choosing to stare up people's arses did make me giggle though! Did you get an answer???

I once said " while you're down there "to a new beautician who was waxing me. I had forgotten it was my regular one who knew me very well.

HRT

'While you're down there'... what? Bit of a random thing to say? Or was it a sexual innuendo?

Maybe she was a Mner and thought you were rude for not using the correct terminology for norks?

Cackling out loud like some sort of Mad Witch at this Aprilshowers

I work in health care and I don’t think you were rude at all. I’ve had patients say all sorts of things and I put it down to what it usually is - nerves and trying to relieve the tension in what may be a very awkward/ unusual situation for them. Please don’t worry about it.

@Aprilshowersnowastorm

Maybe gaffer tape across your mouth pre smear test?

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I would probably blurt out something similar.

As mine are so small that they're more or less invisible, I think I'm going to retrain as a mammogram nurse, just so that I can finally handle some.

OP, you were not rude.

Sounds like she had a sense of humour by-pass. Not you weren't rude.

YANBU that's just the sort of thing I would come out with! My Mirena was fitted 8am on a Monday morning - of course I was nervous/uncomfortable/embarrassed etc so thanked her afterwards and then in true to self form:

"I do apologise that you've had to go through that on a Monday morning, it can't be nice when first appointment of the day is head up a fanny, I expect you're used to it though"

Aaargh, I'll be off then!

No idea why your radiographer thought it was rude OP, other than it's actually her dream job but cannot admit it

I said to my doctor once, I don’t know how you do it - listening to people complain all day long. He laughed. He understood that I meant he had to listen to people complain about their health.

Not a rude question at all. I get asked if I hate looking at teeth all day and my answer is that I love my job, especially the people. Sounds like you hit a raw nerve.

Ooh. I see what you did there

I once said " while you're down there "to a new beautician who was waxing me. I had forgotten it was my regular one who knew me very well.

I've only ever heard that from a man making a blow job joke. What did you mean by it? Hope you weren't randomly sexually harassing someone?

I don't think it was rude.

Probably more it mage it hard for her to answer. She probably felt uncomfortable replying

"No actually I enjoy handling others bosoms all day long"

I don't think you were rude at all. I'm a dentist and people ask me why I want to look in people's mouths all the time

I feel OK about it now - I think she must have just been a bit stuck-up or something. The next time I feel embarrassed/ashamed of my blubber/awkward at having my body handled, I'll keep my yap shut and not even get into a conversation.

You definitely weren't rude. Her reply was strange.

I was, as I say, embarrassed, so I did all this chatting (so did she). I told her perhaps Chiropodists get bored with feet all day, I didn't mean to offend her. I don't think it was inappropriate.

I usually say "No everyones feet are different"

It's when people say "How can you mess about with peoples' feet" I silently grind my teeth to gums. There's no polite way to say I didn't train 3 fecking years to mess about so really silence is the valid option.

And it's Podiatrist

I know you didn’t mean anything off, op, but she’s doing a job that screens for abnormalities and cancer and she probably deals with some very upset and worried women every day; perhaps your light remark just came at the wrong moment. I hope your mammogram went well

My ds podiatrist has been a god imo!

Started 5 years ago with a 13° correction on insole and now down to 1. Hoping to go "off the shelf" soon. She has totally transformed the shape of his feet - no mean feat in an ambulant kid with CP!

Had my mammogram earlier today. Was wondering whether to ask the same question to see what response I got, but didn’t. I did make an inane comment about not having big boobs though.

When my gp was looking up my backside with a camera I asked him if there were any lottery tickets up there

Nah, she's an uptight prat. It was good of you to even ask. No everyone is in for a small talk you know, to entertain them while they are doing their job, but you tried to be friendly.

I absolutely hate it when someone does a harmless joke and get smacked in the face with a full blown fucking self-righteousness.

No, you were making small talk at a time when you were slightly embarrassed that's all. Maybe the nurse was having a bad day and needs to lighten up a bit. Don't give it another thought.

It's the kind of thing I'd say as a joke because I was uncomfortable but not everybody shares that sense of humour. I think she meant she found the joke inappropriate.