To have booked a hotel where 2 DC have to share double bed?

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Hi, booked a 2 night stay in a hotel local to my mum's. She's not very well and we are going to visit. She is in supported accommodation, disabled, so we can't stay there. We want to be in the closest accommodation possible so we can walk and see her (getting there by train).

DC will have to share a double bed, aged 8 and 11. They're moaning. Would it be unreasonable to say they have to suck it up?

In most situations it’s perfectly fine to tell them to suck it up. Not so much if one of them was routinely bullied by the other, though. Or if one of them is beginning to get body conscious and dislikes being naked in front of the other (especially if they are opposite sex, but even if not).

It's a bit early for snow (flakes) isn't it?

Hope Mum is ok.

We have just been away for a month. DD 8 had to share a double bed with DS11 every night. Of course they’d have preferred their own beds but we couldn’t make it work like that. They were fine with it.

Op. youve more important things to worry about. Your dc need to know things dont always go their own way. They have to suck this upso their mum can be near her mum when she needs her. How your mum ok op x. (I had to share a bed with dsis as a child until my teens if we wer on holiday. We put pillows down the middle. Years later The night before my dsis wedding she asked to join me in bed and we discussed our holidays. Looking back the bed sharing thing was fun but i didnt realise that at the time. Dparents had to book cheap or else no holiday. Hope your mum is ok x

YANBU, they're being ridiculous.

I still share a double bed with my sister on occasion and we're in our 30s!

I've been known to put my 15, 11 and 4 year olds in one bed together.

We’ve just got back from a holiday where my 12 and 14 year old shared a bed, no problem. And last night they had a couple of friends over and all decided to share a couple of mattresses on the floor rather than sleep in separate rooms.

It’s not something that would ever cross my mind as a potential issue. I’ve shared many a small double bed with friends after parties and on cheap holidays.

I'd come down on them hard and tell them not to be so selfish.

I would bung a sleeping bag in the car and let them sort it out - they can choose if one of them wants to sleep on the floor, or if they find it is more comfy to both sleep on the same bed for a couple of nights.

One thing to consider OP, if the illness is serious enough to be causing concerns, is that she is their grandma as well as your mother. So they are probably a bit unsettled too. Try and find a way to be kind to all of you and make any "suck it up" speech as nice as you can, given the circumstances. They're a bit too young really to be understanding and emotionally mature enough to provide you with the support you need or to look elsewhere for the support they probably need. So being annoying may partly be a consequence of the stress of a sick grandparent and a worried mother.

BTW I like BackforGood's idea of a sleeping bag - though suggest two if you have them to stave off arguments about who gets to go camping.

TABU.

Total non-issue.

I don't see the issue?

Aren't they just excited about staying in a hotel?

Not unreasonable at all. As suggested, sleeping bags are a good idea - or sleeping top to tail.

YANBU at all!

My two (13 & 10) have shared many times, as a lot of hotels have rooms with two Double or Queen beds in them (no twin option).

If we travel as a family, we tend to split along gender lines now, DD with me; DS with DH. It doesn't always work that way, though...I actually prefer sharing with DS as DD is a kicker!

DD 11 and DS 8 always share a bed on holidays. If I can book with twin beds I will but that seems to be a very rare set up I’ve found.

We usually make a ‘pillow wall’ down the middle of the bed if they’re unhappy about sharing.

My 8 and 11 yr olds insist on sharing a bed at home even though they have their own rooms. Definitely wouldn't think twice about sharing a bed when we were away somewhere.

Mine are preteens and usually share a double if we go away. Fact of life!

Depends why they don't want to.

It was my idea of a nightmare and the answers were all as above. You should be grateful you're in a hotel...don't be selfish...etc. It was just another opportunity for my sibling to torment me. To kick the shit out of me until I conceded to sleep on the floor under whatever clothes I could find.the pillow had to stay on the bed you see, so if I "chose" to sleep on the floor, then I was choosing to sleep with out a pillow. Any complaints to my parents were met with "don't be ridiculous, sibling would never do that, you're just trying to get them into trouble. If you want to sleep on the floor that's your choice."

So how well do you know your DC and do they have a justified reason?

Mine have often had a share a double bed or sofa bed, but they are both girls. We generally ask for 2 duvets though, and use spare pillows to make a buffer between them.

Are they the same sex?

No not U at all. We recently had a five week holiday where not all accommodation had twin beds. The 12 and 14 year olds had to share. They complained bitterly, but were told to suck it up for all the above reasons. They did it, not happily, but they survived.

Jeez. Don't discuss it with them - it's happening- that's it.

My two had to share a double bed on our US road trips, usually 2 double beds in the room. One of them sometimes slept of the floor, her choice. They'll be fine, if they complain remind them of why they're there and tell them not to be such brats!