I’m not being unreasonable. (Rant!!!)

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So, I’ve been in my current job for a number of years.

Without being too biased, I think I treat my colleagues with respect. But recently the thing that is bothering me most is a lack of respirecation by co workers. It makes me want to pack my job in

This week I came into work an hour early because one colleague messaged to say she had childcare issues and could I cover for her. Again, only too happy to oblige! But then she had to leave work early and I ended up covering the latter half of her shift as well. She didn’t even message to say thank you or say thank you when leaving the office despite walking right by me

I stayed an extra hour and a half last week in order to help my new colleague who was a bit unsure of how to do his task (I’m not his boss but didn’t want to leave him in the lurch)

On Friday, I gave my colleague my good desk chair as hers had broken and no replacement could be found at short notice.
I ended up sitting on one of the canteen chairs instead. (The lady was a number of years older than me and I thought it would be the polite thing to offer)
Again, not even so much as a thank you, she just sat down and worked away.

I text my colleague to congratulate her on announcing the news that she was expecting her first child and that if she needed anything in the meantime, to let me know. Not even so much as a reply and that was two weeks ago.

Anyway, without wanting to winge it seems that no matter how much I try and extend my good grace onto others, I get no thanks in return.

Yes they are work colleagues, but it makes me wonder why i bother at all now.

That’s all I want really, not more money or a promotion or attention. Just a bloody thank you from time to time. So fed up

YANBU You sound very kind
but you have entitled colleagues with no manners.

No more covering childcare issues unless your boss asks you.

Ask older lady if she has sorted out a new chair as you need your chair back by Friday due to back pain.

Anyone that doesn't reply to your text doesn't get another congratulatory text. Ever.

Be kind but have limits.

Ugh. I feel for you, I had this in my last team. There were 3 of us who did the same job, but there was this expectation that I'd just stay late if something needed to be done as I didn't have kids and the other two did.

We also had to deliver training once a month each (which we all hated) and they made a habit of calling in sick on their day, and asking me to do it. After a while I started working in another office on their scheduled days so they couldn't dump on me.

Has this been happening for a while or is it just that a few things have happened all at once which have made you feel generally taken for granted?

for you op for being such a lovely soul in a workplace of ignorance.don't let them get you down.stay the beautiful person you are.

Stop being such a doormat. They are walking all over you. There is being kind and generous and then there is being a walkover.
They see you as the latter.

Get your chair back. It's yours. If that colleague needs a chair let your manager sort it or tell your colleague to contact your facilities team who looks after office supplies/furniture.

Don't cover anyone coming in late or leaving early. They wouldn't cover for you so stop that now.

You're not getting any thanks for what you're doing. Perhaps if you do decide to do something nice for a colleague you could say "You're welcome" after doing it. Maybe they might start saying thanks then?