To ask how I deal with this manager?

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My line manager basically. She is known to be a fairly tricky person to deal with, and she has taken a dislike to me it seems. I overheard her ranting about me to a colleague, and among various petty complaints she said (I am paraphrasing, but much) that every time I open my mouth she wants to punch me in the face.

I know what my mannerisms, my very presence irritates her immensely so I have always tried to treat her with professional respect and courtesy. But it's wearing me down. I haven't been able to eat or sleep, and I know that whatever it is, it is just that I annoy her. She rolls her eyes if I say anything in departmental meetings etc.

I'm keeping records of course. But It's so awful. My only 'technique' is to try and be friendly and as relaxed as possible around her, but the whole situation is really terrible. There is a real chance that this could kill my career. 20 years in this sort of role and I care about my career. (It has to be said though, the turnover of staff at my work is fairly significant).

I actually threw up this morning with anxiety at the thought of going to work tomorrow.

Any advice is gratefully received.

Sorry about the typos.

How long have you worked for her? I’d be putting in a grievance if I’d heard her saying such things about me.
She doesn’t have to like you, but she does have to treat you with common decency and respect.

She sounds dreadful and this is definitely grievance territory. Does she have other direct reports? How does she treat them? Can you join up together to make a complaint?

I've worked at my workplace for 18 months. I was recently moved to this department. It's meant to be a promotion. 4 of my predecessors left the workplace in the past 4 years....she is well known for being really difficult, and losing staff, but she is very good at what she does and is a high earner and a partner and is untouchable.

What do you want to happen? If you aren't going to go down the grievance route, you need to put this bitch back in her box.

I would speak to her 1:1 and tell her calmly and quietly what you overheard. Let her respond without comment. Tell her if she is unhappy with your work she needs to let you know in a constructive way through proper channels. Maintain steely eye contact throughout.