Baby shower

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So I’m due to have my first child later on this year and my friends decided to spring on me a surprise baby shower. This would have been lovely if I hadn’t explicitly stated numerous times that I didn’t want one! Another one of my friends tried to arrange one for me and I again explicitly stated that I really didn’t want one and she, albeit under protest accepted and agreed not to arrange anything.

This baby shower was due to take place in a couple of weeks but I’ve only just been told and to be honest I’ve told them I’m pissed off that they’ve gone behind my back. They have now decided to cancel it as I don’t think they want to deal with an angry pregnant person.

Thing is this has now made me feel bad as I have no idea how much effort they had put it but I never wanted it in the first place. I hate being the centre of attention and to be honest didn’t much enjoy my hen do for that reason. I also know that people will want to give gifts for the baby and I know I should be grateful but being our first I want to get things I know I want myself. I don’t think it’s fair on my other friend either who I convinced not to do one and makes me look bad, as if I let my other friend do it and not her. Also parties without alcohol are shit

So Aibu for causing them to cancel something I was VERY VERY clear I didn’t want or should I have just put up with it and let it go ahead?

You made it clear you didn't want one. YANBU.

Yanbu you clearly told them more than once you didn't want one, god knows why they persisted. Don't feel bad, baby showers are beyond ridiculous imo.

YANBU, they should really have listened to you, you can't force a party onto people. I didn't have one either, I ignored the moany people they can have one for their pregnancies.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. You've said you don't want one. You're friends can't go behind your back and expect you to be grateful!

I didn't want one did similar reasons but as I didn't have a hen do my best friend insisted. She went to a lot of effort and my son was bought some lovely gifts but it was clear I was uncomfortable. It was held an my house as I didn't have the money to hire a hall or want my friends to be expected to pay for their own food at a pub it whatever, so I spent all morning cleaning, which aggravated my SPD. I was glad when it was over!