It receiving a simple thanks

[Rosegoldlilly]

I attended my DS first nursery party a couple of weeks ago. The party girl and my DS are both two. Thought it would be nice to go, speak to the other mums there and for my DS to play with the other children. I didn't know the party girls mum really but brought her what I thought was a nice present. Not too expensive.
The mum has my number as I text her before saying we were going to attend. AIBU to think it's a little bit rude not to send a quick text to say thanks for my daughter's present. A thank you card might be a bit more but a text takes 1 min.

I think it's really rude, if it was a family member you would make sure you texted a Thankyou at the very least. This happened to me a couple of times with the same person, it hasn't stopped me from buying their child a present each year but I don't have anything to do with her mum.

The odd thing is though her mum seemed really nice at the party. But yea thought it was ungrateful as I didn't really have to buy a present considering I hardly know them.

Would she definitely have known it was from you? If yes then very rude not to acknowledge it.

In the past I have always made sure I do thank you notes etc ... it's such a nice gesture and people appreciate it a lot. At the very least is texting everyone or messaging to say thanks.

However, my daughter has a class party earlier in the year and while I did thank everyone who gave her a gift in person and thank them for coming afterwards it was completely manic and a lot of children I Didn't know who belonged to who, some people had said yes in person, others on Facebook and others on text, some just said yes they would be coming, so I was unable to tie them together with the child. So I just sent a generic Facebook message and thanks people when i saw them again, I, absolutely terrible with faces, and in the past the kids have had only children I knew well so it was fine, but I felt terrible having lots of lovely gifts/money for her but not being able to thank them. Obviously I did know some parents but I didn't want to send a thanks to certain ones and not others. Thankfully no one else has ever sent thank yous to anyone so I don't feel too bad, but this sort of things makes me very guilty, need to do better next time.

I often find this with kids parties, always give a present, rarely get an acknowledgement. I personally think it's pretty bad manners, and I always say a thanks to someone who has give my child something.

How many children were at the party? We had a party at ds’s nursery and ended up not knowing who many of the gifts were from as the cards were separated from gusts etc.

I think it’s a bit silly to be upset by this. You don’t give a gift to get a thank you. Yes it’s polite to say thank you but actually you shouldn’t expect one. Surely being invited to a nice party is thanks enough?

Everyone has their own shit going on and maybe this Mum just hasn’t got time in her head to thank you specifically for her child’s present.

Why don’t you just mention in passing at nursery pick up or drop off ‘does xx like the xx’ I’m sure you’ll get an ‘oh yes she does thanks so much’.

Is this a present that was handed over at the party? Surely you were thanked then? I find the idea she should send thirty individual texts really strange- presumably you hand over a present, someone says 'thank you!' And that's it? Do you want t be thanked twice, or was the present sent separately?

She definitely knows who I am as.i said in the text who my son was and when I got to the party she started talking about my DS and her DD playing together. Also when I was there I spoke to quite a few other parents and it seems there was only my DS and another couples DD who was there from nursery the others were family friends children.
I'm not upset I'm just a little hacked off that I went to the effort of buying a nice present with no thanks. Just think it's a bit rude

You're right it's polite to acknowledge a gift but it doesn't seem standard anymore in DS's class about half of people do it.

I've been to lots of birthday parties with DD - and hosted a couple- and I've only once received a thank you afterwards for a present. I've never even considered that this is a thing people would do! Kids always say thank you to the birthday child and organiser/parent when they leave and birthday child always says thank you when DD gives them the present. Maybe I'm the minority but round here that seems to be the norm and I've never considered it bad manners. Different story at christmas and with family presents but I wouldn't expect it after a kid's party

This is such bad manners. As you say, takes a minute. I have this with my best friend. I buy gifts for her children and never hear if it even reached them! Doesn’t take a second... I always try and take a photo of our DD with her gift and send it by text to say she loves it. I think it’s important but some people don’t seem to have the same values...

Maybe school parties would be different when they are older and I don't have to attend but he's is only too so neither child can say thanks. So really I thought the parent would say thanks. Me personally would do it as id consider it bad manners not to. Guess not every one is like me

I assume she said thanks at the time. No need for text in that case. Wouldn't bother me in the slightest

Not really because a few parents came in when I did so she didn't say thanks