AIBU

[womanofthesun]

To think that if you're a guest in someone's house and you become ill (with a cold or flu - generally a virus), you should go home? Am I being harsh? I think it's inconsiderate to take yourself to someone's house if you know you're ill, or to stay at their house once you come down with something (especially if small children live there). I find this behaviour very selfish - spreading your germs and potentially infecting the actual residents of the house.

I'm in 2 minds, I get where you're coming from, but I feel like half the treads here say

"How dare people come near me when they are ill! Do they not realise how dangerous that is?!"

And the other half say

"How dare people cancel on me when they just have the sniffles! I never cancel plans due to illness"

Can't please everyone....

FWIW I agree with you and keep my germs to myself (and prefer it if others do that same!). But I understand why people get confused x

DannyWallace I understand the second logic if/when it's just two adults who are involved, but when it's a family home with children I think it's a bit different!

I would say it very much depends on how ill and the reasons why they're staying. I certainly wouldn't expect someone who'd come to stay with me for a few days to leave because they got a cold

JagerPlease it's not someone who's 'come to stay' as such. It's the girlfriend of my oldest son who's pretty much always here anyway (she's round here more than she is her own house). It's not even for my sake or that of my oldest son that I'd expect her to leave, but the sake of my 3-month-old!

JagerPlease it's not just the fact that she's ill, to be honest, it's the fact that she's making no effort to contain it - swanning around the house, as usual. Also coughing, sneezing and spluttering whenever she goes.

JagerPlease I don't know, I just thought it was common understanding to avoid small babies if you're contagious.

Ask her to leave then! It’s your house.

“You poor thing. I’m so sorry you aren’t feeling well. It might be best if X takes you home, I’m concerned that the baby might catch your cold. I’m sure you understand”

I would ask her to go home if I was that concerned about others catching it or at least to stay in her/your sons room.

I probably would feel a bit the same if I had a 3 month old in the house, but to be honest you sound a bit like your not keen on her staying most of the time anyway! If your concerned about her staying when unwell may be worth speaking to her or your son about it.

Well, you’ve never read Pride and Prejudice then. Yes, Jane Bennet, I am looking at you