Birthday celebrations

[Samb79]

So my birthday falls three days after Christmas. It’s a pretty crap time for a birthday, as historically people haven’t made much effort as they’re either skint after Christmas or saving up for a blow out at new year. It’s always been like this - people cancelling plans or ‘busy’.

I have a new friend whose birthday is on the 26th and another that has theirs on the 30th so they also share the crap birthday date as well. However 26th friend turns 40 this year and her husband is arranging a surprise 40th for the date of my birthday and it’s upset me a bit. Last year all the talk was of 30th friend’s 40th and mine was kind of an after thought.

I know a 40th is really important, and I am BU, but it still smarts a bit. My husband said he thought I’d be happy about it as all my friends would be there..:well yes they would, but not for me!

I know I’m behaving like a child, but AIBU to feel a little bit put out?

Yes, YABU

You will have a 'milestone' Birthday at some point, and can revel in the glory then.

Having said that, then if feel you want to make yourself feel a bit better, then why not have a summer solstice party or something similar and call it a X years and a 1/2 party?

You can all have fun, you'll have had the pressie show from your bday already so you could maybe arrange it as a fundraiser for your favourite charity too, a win, win and a feelgood event all round.

Yes, YABU

If it was your friend organising the party, then YWNBU to be upset that she'd forgotten your birthday.

But as it's her husband (who I'm guessing doesn't know you as well) trying to plan a surprise party for his wife, he couldn't be expected to know your birthday.

I don't think you are BU & I don't think you're not BU

I can see why you're upset, your birthday is the one day of the year you get to just have a 'me' day, so to be forced to do something on that day can be disappointing. But maybe just this once you will unfortunately just need to suck it up and go.

Make sure you allocate the day before or after for yourself though!

Sorry, she’s an new friends but alluour friends will be there?

I’m a bit confused but as DH organised it I think YABU. I can’t see why it’s a little annoying but plenty of people have parties not actually in their birthday so you could do the same (before or after the day itself) just be like the queen 👸🏽

I think you're being a bit precious to be honest.

What. Of course yabu. I can't imagine being upset about something like this.
Is the 28th a weekend day?