Family rift over the sake of a lift?

[Geknock]

Me and my partner gave the FIL his first grandchild 6 weeks ago and he still hasn't met her. We live in the next village over which would mean him getting two buses at £6.20 for both or a taxi probably £10. I refused to give him a lift in the first 2 weeks as I was still healing and honestly couldn't be bothered (partner and FIL don't drive) I have since told my partner I can pick his dad up if needs be but partner as said not to bother, if he can't be bothered to stay out of the pub for one day to spare the money then he doesnt get to see her.
I've been trying to stay out of their petty back and forth but I hate conflict.
Should we just accept FIL is rubbish; be the bigger people and pick him up? Or stick to our guns and tell him to make the effort?

Some Grandparents are rubbish and you will just have to accept that. It probably really hurts your dh. Ours were the same, never came to see the new baby, so we gave up waiting and went to them. It doesn't work because they still never visited over the years and the pain just goes on and on. I wish we'd just gave up trying years ago.

If your FIL has been a rubbish dad and now looks to be a disinterested grandfather, why push contact?

I agree with everyone else, - leave him alone and trust your partner. He knows what he's like.

I would have thought staying away from him would be far preferable. What grown man takes money from his 21 year old son? You are going to need that money for your family.