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To feel absolutely emotional about back to school?

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Chickenwings85 · 01/09/2018 20:53

I only have one DD who is going into year 4 on Monday. We've had a lovely summer holiday and shes spent alot of time with her closest friends too.
I'm dreading her going back to school on Monday because I'm honestly going to miss her so much. Not to mention that every term, she just keeps growing up that little bit more. I'm sat here tonight just wanting to cry, which I know is pathetic and ridiculous. Is anyone feeling the same or do I need a slap round the face with a wet fish?

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loubluee · 01/09/2018 20:55

Grab the wet fish! I’m dancing that it’s almost time for ds to go back........

condepetie · 01/09/2018 20:56

I'm emosh but that's because I've had 6 weeks off work and have to psyche myself up for going back on Monday...

RedAndGreenSeen · 01/09/2018 21:02

Its a while back now, but I remember that feeling Chicken. Most of my friends were quite glad the Summer holidays were over but I missed DS going back to school. Its bitter-sweet for sure. Make sure you have some nice holidays planned over the next few years too as after that its hell lol. Its a cliche but they start to grow up fast, and feel thankful for those happy times.

MoonlightMedicine · 01/09/2018 21:02

I’m with you OP. I have a DS also going into Y4, and my youngest (DD) starting reception. Dreading it but not letting on in the slightest!

imtired1butmykidsarent · 01/09/2018 21:03

grab the wet fish! Although it is normal to feel how you are feeling. Just remember that DD is going to have loads of fun at school, and while she is gone you can get so much more done than you can if she was at home.

sunstarsmoon · 01/09/2018 21:05

I'm over the moon it's back to school time. Entertaining two kids everyday and the arguing has done me in.

PhilomenaButterfly · 01/09/2018 21:08

God no, I'll be shoving them up the steps into class! 😂

Nydj · 01/09/2018 21:10

Son isn’t at school anymore but I remember feeling exactly like you do

donkeysandzebras · 01/09/2018 21:13

What do you do when your DD is at school? My eldest is also going into Yr4 and we've had a great summer but I went back to work last week having had a month off and I am enjoying doing that aspect of my life, seeing my colleagues etc. I always like the start of autumn too and we have some fun weekends lined up over the next few weeks and it's not that long until half term.

Tatiebee · 01/09/2018 21:15

I feel the same OP, although my oldest DS has high functioning autism which makes it very difficult for him to make friends. He's constantly misunderstood and left out by both teachers and pupils and has no friends. I wish I could just keep him home and keep him safe but he's very acidemically capable and actually loves to learn. I'm making it my priority this year to be his voice and insist that his emotional well-being is taken into consideration.

ManyCrisps · 01/09/2018 21:17

Maybe if you had a job you wouldn’t miss her as much because you wouldn’t be seeing her all day everyday.

Octopus37 · 01/09/2018 21:19

To be honest I really envy you for enjoying your child so much that you feel like that, I wish I enjoyed my boys that much. Younger one is going into year 4 this time, they are both rude and difficult. Older boy has anxiety problems and can be a loose canon. I am self-employed and working around kids who no longer want to go to holiday clubs is hard, when I have a husband who works shifts. The boys are fighting as I type, last night my husband said he couldn't stand another nine months of older boy being how he is and might have to lose for his own sanity, guess who doesn't have a choice, got it in one. me. At the moment I fantasise about having having had one child who I had a strong bond with like yourself. Sorry for the nature of my post, I have been with the boys all day, husband is meeting up with some old friends who are over from Australia for a week (without their kids, kids are I presume staying with their loving grandparents). Sorry for the pity party, but the basic crux is enjoy the fact that you have that lovely close bond and the fact that you have obviously got Motherhood nailed.

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Chickenwings85 · 01/09/2018 21:20

Thank you for the replies. I'm glad to know it's somewhat normal.
What makes it worse is that shes so mature for her age as it is and now her body is starting to catch up. I just want to keep her this age, don't get me wrong, she bloody infuriates me sometimes but for most of the time, she's a great kid.
Donkey - I have my own business/projects and courses and training to be getting on with when she returns to school.

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Octopus37 · 01/09/2018 21:21

Sorry, should add that I have been feeling ill all day with my period

TwoOddSocks · 01/09/2018 21:26

Octopus37 I want to give you a hug! For what it's worth I often feel guilty about having only one so I think everyone beats themselves up now and then.

OP I know what you mean. I actually usually find the holidays far too long but this year I carefully planned some spaced out activities to break things up and it really helped. They went so fast!

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Chickenwings85 · 01/09/2018 21:26

Oh Octopus Flowers Cake Wine I'm so sorry you feel like that at the moment. When my daughter was around 6 years old, she was an absolute terror! Everything was such a drama for her and I would be in tears for several days of the week because of it. I'm not sure what changed in her, maybe the transition to Juniour school helped her, I don't know.
Octopus, we're all in this parenting thing together and I can bet you that you're doing a brilliant job with your children.

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Fakeflowersandlemonade · 01/09/2018 21:27

OP I also have a DD going in to year 4 and 2 DS going in to years 5 and 8 and I'm dreading it. Iv had the best summer with them. The crazy part though is im dreading it this much and I actually work at the youngest two DC school 🤣🤣

babysharksmummy · 01/09/2018 21:33

How lovely of you OP. I'm sick of reading bloody Facebook memes about how people can't wait for their kids to go back. What a shit message to send the kids.
I'm dreading my DS going, I will cry buckets when he actually starts school! We love our fun days at home and when I'm working I miss him so much.
This summer has been a particularly good one. Soon be Christmas OP Brew

Octopus37 · 01/09/2018 21:35

Thank you for your lovely replies, and apologies to the person who started this thread if I have derailed it. Got a lot going on now,kids are 11 and 8 so not young. I dd love them very much but its all hard right now and I have other things going on too. I have heard other people say they feel guilty about having only one, but the parents of one I know all seem to do things so much better, have more time, be more vigilant about everything, do things properly, have cleaner and tidier houses, you get the drift. I don't for a minute regret DS2 though. For those of you who are sad about the end of the holidays, I know its a cliche, but half-term and Christmas for that matter will be here before we all know it.

JacquesHammer · 01/09/2018 21:35

I feel absolutely the same OP.

I’ve treasured every moment of these hols especially. The time between primary and secondary is so absolutely precious.

Maybe if you had a job you wouldn’t miss her as much because you wouldn’t be seeing her all day everyday

What a bizarre comment Confused

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Chickenwings85 · 01/09/2018 21:37

I'm already planning things to do for the October half term and Christmas holidays with her and DP Grin Not necessarily anything fancy, just free or cheap things for us to do.

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DustyCropHopper · 01/09/2018 21:37

I am with you OP. Mine are going into years 3, 6 and 8 on Wednesday. We have had a lovely Summer and I am happy to go on fir a few more weeks. Randomly though, 2 out of the 3 are looking forward to going back.

youarenot · 01/09/2018 21:39

Eldest is going in to YR3 and My wild one starts reception this year.
Both go Wednesday. I'm determined to enjoy the last few days off with them but they do like to do the typical brothers thing and argue! Especially over who wants what on the TV... even as far as one arguing that the other wants to watch such and such and then him saying 'No I don't' ''Yes you do'' 'No'

My eldest has Autism and is going in to a new class this year so all that to content with as well as my 4 year old starting school.. Just my baby at home then and even he's growing up too quickly

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Chickenwings85 · 01/09/2018 21:39

Octopus, I'm sure you're doing a fantastic job with looking after your boys aswell as running a house, it's hard work with just one so it must be doubly hard with two children. You're doing your best and that's all that matters. The fact you care, says alot.

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YearOfYouRemember · 01/09/2018 21:40

Mine are 13-17 years old and apart from a few moments it's been the best holiday. I've not been counting the days but tbh I never know how long they are off for so not to stress. My first born starts his last year at school and then he's off to university next year Sad. I like them being off as then I don't have to worry about dc3 getting into trouble or having his equipment nicked. Again.