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Help with leaving an abusive relationship.

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Pinkbutton85 · 01/09/2018 17:21

Non physical, but mental and emotional. He is controlling, possessive, obsessive, manipulative. I am financially dependent on him. Even my phone bill was put in his name. The car and insurance are both in his name and most of the household bills. We have been together for 10 years. We have two under 5. We are in a council house with both of our names on the lease. I'm a SAHM with no financial dependence of my own. No benefits due to his earnings. I've 'not been allowed' a job.

Every time I try and leave the relationship he completely turns and gets physically upset, apologizing, using the children as emotional manipulation. Says he doesn't know what he will do or how he will live without me. So this stops me.

Even as I'm typing this he's asking me what I'm doing, why I'm typing, what I'm saying.

I don't know what I do now. Can anyone recommend any charities that help in this situation?

OP posts:
Merryoldgoat · 01/09/2018 17:33

I don’t have any experience but I’ve seen many recommend Woman’s Aid.

So sorry you’re in such a terrible situation.

Dg89 · 01/09/2018 17:35

I have been in his situation before and it doesn't usually get any better I'm afraid. You always think stay for the children but it makes it worse. There are women centres and the wish centre is a great place to go. Hope things go ok

Losingthewill1 · 01/09/2018 19:11

Google women’s aid
Google women’s centres
Or when he leaves get a loan and change the locks, then tell the police why he’s not aloud back in and tell him to do one

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