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To insist on taking miserable/tired dc out? Last day of holidays hell.

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theduchessstill · 01/09/2018 15:36

Dc are off to their dad's tomorrow and back to school next week. as am I, so it's our last day together and it's shit.

Weather is lovely but ds2 was at a sleepover last night and has been in a foul mood ever since he got back. Can't work out if he's just tired or whether something happened to upset him (he says not), but, as a result we're just hanging around wasting the day.

having managed to keep him off fucking Roblox/Spotify until after lunch he's now in major strop mode as I've told him 2 hours was enough. He hates me, he's got nothing to do, he's too hot, too tired blah blah. Ds1 is listening to Jaws on the radio Hmm, occasionally coming down to try and persuade ds2 to play and then shout that he hates him/me/life because he won't.

I feel down and probably not handling it right. I just want us to get out and make the most of the last day but don't want to make things worse. I had the idea of going to a nearby pretty town for an ice-cream and play after an early tea, but it's a 40 minute drive and could be a busy road, though probably not at that time. Ds1 has said fine, but I can tell he's not fussed, ds2 looked at me like I'd shat on his Ariana Grande CDs.

Now they have started screaming at each other. After what has been a lovely summer this seems like an utterly shit ending and I feel like it's all they'll remember. WIBU to drag them out or shall I write it off as a loss, open the wine and let them do whatever they want? Problem is, they'll get unlimited screen time at dad's...

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WhatAmISupposedToBeDoing · 01/09/2018 15:38

For the sake of a few hours I say Wine and order in a pizza. Maybe find a film that all of you would like to watch together. Why sit in shite traffic with a sullen adolescent if nobody really wants to go?

chickhonhoneybabe · 01/09/2018 15:39

Open the wine, it will only get worse if you take them out...

Singlenotsingle · 01/09/2018 15:40

How old is ds2? Can you and ds1 go out and leave ds2 to sulk on his own?

WhatAmISupposedToBeDoing · 01/09/2018 15:40

Here's a true story. I dragged DD out to the park one day when neither of us wanted to go, because I felt bad about too much screen time. At the park I broke my leg in 3 places and screen time levels went through the bloody roof after that!

DontTouchTheMoustache · 01/09/2018 15:43

End of holidays so they are just a bit tired and want a rest probably. Not every day has to be a thing and you can do something fun next weekend. Let them do whatever they want today to relax but suggest driving to the supermarket to oick up some popcorn, pick n mix etc to make it a cinema at home then chill for the eve. If they dont fancy it have some wine and read a book while they entertain themselves.

Witchend · 01/09/2018 15:44

Take them somewhere and say McDs on the way back, or something similar for a treat.
They're probably also feeling a bit rubbish last days holidayish.

GeorgeTheHippo · 01/09/2018 15:53

If he's over tired from a sleepover I'd just accept you're buggered, to be honest.

Bluelady · 01/09/2018 15:55

Just stay at home and chill. If you insist on going out it will be miserable.

tiredybear · 01/09/2018 15:56

Take the pressure off, sounds ike you're all feeling a bit grumpy about the end of the hols. Nice food, nice film, no pressure.

CloudCaptain · 01/09/2018 15:56

Just give the poor lad his tablet. He sounds too tired for enforced 'making memories' fun. Do something with ds1 who sounds bored. Bake some biscuits maybe or some craft.

Fairylea · 01/09/2018 16:00

I would just let ds2 have his tablet. If you want a stress free time at home why not? If he’s been on a sleepover last night it’s not like he isn’t being social and doing other stuff.

Sometimes you have to pick your battles.

MrsMozart · 01/09/2018 16:02

A chill day for all of you.

Everyone can just do their thing. Maybe as PP said a film and pizza.

DailyMailFail101 · 01/09/2018 16:12

Yes drag ‘em out! The change of scenery will do wonders, they may also have a little nap in the car and wake up more cheerful! They will be fine when your out and about.

Enko · 01/09/2018 16:13

I would gather them both up and go out for a walk. get some fresh air in both of them. I have no issue with screens however mine know the moment they sulk over it being cut off they will not have it returned. You said no and to me that is the end of that.

get some air in your lungs. go back home and then decide if you all want to go to the city suggested . Sometimes what sounds like an but of a " oh ok " idea can be great when happening.

IsTheRainEverComingBack · 01/09/2018 16:16

Give up. Order pizza. See if there’s a film you can all agree on and just chill.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 01/09/2018 16:17

How old?

theduchessstill · 01/09/2018 16:28

Well, things improved massively when ds1 delightedly informed me that ds2 had farted on him. This led to a truce and they have now gone to the park. If they are gone an hour or more I think I will sack off the outing, but if they're back in 10 minutes we'll go. Ds2 said on his way out he supposed he wouldn't mind going as 'it's not too bad there,' so I'll take that as a desire for both an ice-cream/outing and not to back down. I want to sit somewhere beautiful as I know that will lift my mood, I just wish I could think of somewhere nearer.

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BarbaraofSevillle · 01/09/2018 17:46

If you have a garden and shop in walking distance, go buy ice cream, and wine from the shop and just relax in the garden and enjoy it there?

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