Hi all 🙂, I’m not sure whether i need a kick up the ass or if I’m just being unreasonable. Or perfectly normal?!
Not sure if relevant but only recently (June) went NC with ex of 7yrs - engaged not married (very intense, unhealthy and very abusive at the end) we mutually broke up a yr previous to NC but was “amicable” ringing me 1-2/week chatting/checking up on me/probing etc. Hence recent total NC.
I have now met a New Guy and we have now been on several dates, we both really like each other and sex is naturally on the cards... i find myself feeling like a sudden prude! Not wanting sex or physical contact yet. Just this alien feeling of being “not ready”. And not excited.
I really like him.. I can see it being a very serious relationship tbh and I feel for this reason I am holding back. It feels too soon, however there have been about 8 dates now and another one tomorrow!! 🙂😬 It’s going to start getting weird unless I do something or say something!!
For the sake of full disclosure: I’m not a prude. I slept with lots of guys (far too many tbh esp in my youth) and have had 3 good tlong-term serious highly sexually adventurouss kinky/bdsm relationships (over 5yrs each) since then. Never had this before!!
So have any of u found it hard to get back into the “saddle” or perhaps is there just a bit of chemistry missing between me and New Guy?
Is it just me? Am I being unreasonable?
Thank you! (Be gentle please; my first thread!) 🙂