Basically we separated over 5 years ago (stopped living together) were on/off but was always doomed and he's a wanker
He lives with another woman and hasn't bothered to have contact with his child or ever introduce his new woman he cohabits with to his DC in almost a year
So, there's nothing to stay married for but it's very uncomplicated- no assets, money etc to split as that's all done long ago. Only contact to sort but all my offers have gone unanswered so I guess that's that sadly for DC. I can't force him to be a decent father, so absent one it is.
But should I bother actually divorcing him? Would it really benefit me anything at all? I don't feel "married" and he has no claim to anything of mine etc now. If I hypothetically met someone and wanted to remarry it wouldn't take that long to sort later on from here would it?
My solicitor suggests I get on with it... I just don't know if I can really be bothered (I've moved on emotionally, physically, just feels like paperwork etc) and time e.g. I would have to apply for the petition and apply for my marriage certificate as ex has the original
Would you bother in the circumstances or just hope he might get around to it due to the new partner at some point?
I'm far more bothered he won't see his DC but there's nothing I can do but support them till they can ask him for themselves why he has walked away from them for some woman he had met for 5 mins before he cut them off (prior to her he did turn up to contact, infrequently but they still had something)