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Protectingmyusername · 31/08/2018 21:43

Name changed for this as it’s so embarrassing.
Five years ago me and my daughters literally moved into our house with the bare minimum. I’m talking a bag of clothes each. We had to start from scratch, we slept on the bedroom floor for a week before we got beds type of thing. We were so excited every time we managed to buy the most basic things.
Anyway fast forward and I managed to get a full time job (minimum wage) that was physically and mentally exhausting but which I loved and my girls were both doing well in their new school. Things were really looking good for us after an horrendous time.
Very slowly we started hoarding. We didn’t notice at first, it started small, I’d see a “bargain” and buy it or something that I knew my daughters would like. Charity shops were my downfall, I’d come home laden with my hauls. The stuff piled up. And piled up.
My mental health started to go downhill and I was that exhausted that the housework started to slide. It slowly got worse and worse, but I couldn’t deal with it and just closed my mind to it all. My work was becoming more exhausting and I was working 50 plus hours a week and trying to get help for my daughters who had developed complex PTSD.
Twelve months ago I was at the doctors for a minor reason and she asked how I was doing. And the floodgates opened. I fell apart. Told her everything.
She was lovely, put me on antidepressants.
About a month after being on them I looked at our home and realised what an absolute shithole we’d turned our lovely place into.
It was disgusting. Bags of rubbish in every room. There wasn’t even a space clear any more. It was worse than anything you’ve ever seen in the newspapers.
I knew I had to do something but I didn’t know where to start. So I just had to grab some bin bags and start filling them. It was disgusting and took ages. But every day I’d fill 5 bags and throw them in the boot of the car to take to the tip. It took me months and I had to be brutal and get rid of everything that wasn’t essential (this was really difficult, I kept putting stuff to one side thinking we’d need it one day)
As I cleared a room I gave it a really deep clean.
It’s taken me a whole year and I honestly don’t want to try and work out how many bags I’ve shifted but I’ve done it. My house is clean again and I’m so fucking proud of myself I want to shout it to everyone but obviously I can’t because I’m so embarrassed that I was in that position in the first place. So I’m telling you lot.

OP posts:
Calphurnia · 31/08/2018 21:46

Well done OP! Hard work all round, you should be really proud! Halo

Notwhoyouthink35 · 31/08/2018 21:46

Good for you, well done!

LoniceraJaponica · 31/08/2018 21:46

Well done. You are lucky to have such an understanding GP.

lonelyatchristmas · 31/08/2018 21:46

Well done you... you are right to be proud of yourself...

WooYa · 31/08/2018 21:47

Be proud! Well doneHaloThanksGlitterball

BrevilleTron · 31/08/2018 21:49

Well done! Be proud of yourself Flowers

mydogishot · 31/08/2018 21:49

That's awesome!

Well done!
I love having a clear out, it's cathartic.

I see it as negativity being piled in each bag.

Camelsinthegobi · 31/08/2018 21:51

That’s amazing! You rock!

Nuggetsandwich · 31/08/2018 21:53

Well done, OP.
You have every right to feel proud of what you've achieved Smile

DarthLipgloss · 31/08/2018 21:54

You are amazing x

goodnessidontknow · 31/08/2018 21:54

Your persistence and determination speak volumes about you, you are right to be very proud of yourself.

Newtothis2017 · 31/08/2018 21:55

You are amazing. You should be proud🤩

Treaclepie19 · 31/08/2018 21:56

You are definitely right to be proud of yourself. Well done!

StitchingMoss · 31/08/2018 21:56

Wow! Go you SmileFlowersBrew.

That’s a massive achievement - you deserve to feel proud Smile.

CoxwellHuge · 31/08/2018 21:58

You have every right to feel proud, well done for realising the problem, sorting it and for being able to post about it here. You never know you might just give someone who is struggling a little hope to help them make a start at changing x

Moominfan · 31/08/2018 22:00

So you should be op. Well done x

foodiemama26 · 31/08/2018 22:01

Well done! You are right to feel proud of yourself Flowers

BlueJava · 31/08/2018 22:03

Well done OP, that's genuinely amazing and you should feel proud.

FanciedAChangeToday · 31/08/2018 22:03

Fantastic!!! It is such a great feeling isnt it. How are your daughters doing? x

FinallyMrsE · 31/08/2018 22:03

Amazing. Well done you, I'm sure your daughters are also incredibly proud.

What a great role model, asking for help and then actually helping yourself and sticking with something that at times must have felt utterly overwhelming x

Hassled · 31/08/2018 22:04

That's incredible - it must have taken real guts to tackle that, and then to keep going. I'm in awe.

daughterofanarchy · 31/08/2018 22:05

Well done OP!!! You have every right to feel proud of yourself.

junebirthdaygirl · 31/08/2018 22:05

Being left with only the clothes on your back is very frightening. No wonder you wanted to hoard things to make sure that didn't happen again. You are right to be proud of getting on top of that. But be doubly proud you first broke free from a bad situation now you are even freer. Its onwards and upwards from here. Good for you!!

Knittedfairies · 31/08/2018 22:05

Well done OP! You have every reason to be proud; onwards and upwards.

Iwantaunicorn · 31/08/2018 22:05

That’s fantastic, well done you!! 🍰

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