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What can I do about vile neighbours

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cuddly61 · 31/08/2018 13:11

I live in a semi ex council under the right to buy I can’t move for another three years unless I pay back the discount which I can’t afford to do these neighbours brought theirs years ago.
They are harrassing me . Started off about three years ago purposely taking their cars off their drive to block my car in that was parked outside my own house my drive wasn’t that big then and partners car parked on it.
Then he wrecked my brand new fence got off in court through lying even though it was caught on cctv .its a long story that one.
Day after he got off not only was they but they got their other neighbours to ,to start blocking my car in .and got them to park their van on my drive and to come round threatening us about my car being parked outside my house. Police did nothing even though it was all caught on cctv.
Then they made a malicious false allegation to the police about me police just said it was tit for tat but I hadn’t done anything .
All this affected my mental health . I had put up with their loud music etc for years until a few weeks ago I couldn’t stand it no more so for my healths sake I made a complaint to the council.the day they got their letter from the council I had the police round later saying they had complained about my cctv covering their garden ,it’s been up there since he wrecked my fence over two years ago now so I masked it off police was satisfied.but then the police come back round saying he had said I had reported him to him firm .now what that has to do with the police I don’t know but police knew by my reaction I hadn’t.
Then today I receive a letter from the council they have complained about my clock chiming. I only put it in the room where the party wall is the other week because I’m having my room it was in plastered .
It’s not even against the party wall it’s on the opposite wall no doubt they have heard it when out in their garden when I’ve had the window open they always lurking in there garden near my windows.
My clocks shuts off chiming at 10 pm they don’t go to bed till about 11 pm. I’ve had enough is this harrasement? If so what can I do?
They sit on their front doorstep and stare at me when I go out if they are home .
I need some help I don’t know what to do?

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Raffles1981 · 31/08/2018 15:16

I had horrendous neighbours once OP and I feel your anxiety over this. Note everything down. Any little thing, every visit you get from the police (who must be sick of these tit for tat complaints) report it all to the council. My neighbor's were housing association so I reported everything. You just have to record, report, repeat. As long as you don't retaliate, fingers crossed the council will eventually do something. I'm so sorry these people are bullying you OP. It's not a pleasant situation to be in. Flowers

Aprilshowersinaugust · 31/08/2018 15:18

Have you contacted your MP? They may be of some use.

TheQueef · 31/08/2018 15:21

Why didn't you move before RTB or has this escalated since you bought?

CSIblonde · 31/08/2018 15:24

I'd be investigating an injunction prohibiting them coming within close contact with you as if they block you in or park on your drive they've breached it and it adds to your case for harassment.

Sorry10 · 31/08/2018 15:24

Sounds awful for you , very intimidating staring at you like that . I've a long history with my neighbour, thing is I never retaliate. I told her years ago that I will be living here forever so best get used to me no one forcing me out of my home.
Just keep your head down don't acknowledge them but write everything down , they'll get bored .
I think my neighbour is a bit sad really doesn't have a lot going on and bored and jealous so I almost feel sorry for her.
You've got to be strong just think very sad people to behave like that .

goldddust · 31/08/2018 16:40

Try for an injunction if you can! Some people just lead such small, boring lives so always feel the need to be in involved in others’. Im in the same boat as you OP! I’ve experienced it in two different houses I’ve lived in now. My current neighbours are the worst though. They will not get the message to leave me alone about trivial matters i.e. me not cutting my grass every week because they ‘prefer it’ that way. Tried to get through my locked gate this morning to shout at me about some crap whilst I was cleaning in my kitchen with the window open. I can’t even stand in my own house without being harassed.

I got the most hilarious dirty stare when I carried my new iMac in the other dayHmm They’ve speculated loudly outside my front door with other neighbours that I must be a drug dealer because I rarely ever leave the house and have ‘very expensive taste’. I’d hardly call items being a necessity to my work a taste! I feel like I have to say to them ‘this is what I do, this is who I am etc’ to stop any rumours or speculation but no one should have to do that. Wish people would just concentrate on themselves

cuddly61 · 31/08/2018 17:11

Thanks for your kind replies it escalated just after I signed for my house. They found out from another neighbour I had inherited and brought my council house outright. They are very jealous their neighbour told me once what ever she brought they copied her.
I know they been spinning lies about me to their new neighbours playing the victims they are convincing liars.
I don’t retaliate but they still carry on .
They think they can do what they like .what kind of people shut two cocker spaniels under the stairs next to the party wall and attach a large wooden dog gate to the party wall and let their dogs bark . And just ignore them. I had no option to report this to the council the final straw was when I had to be up early for a hospital procedure and their dogs woke me up barking gone midnight.
So I had a valid reason to report this and the rspca advised me to as they couldn’t do anything as I think it’s cruel shutting dogs under the stairs to.
Try enduring ten hours of constant howling and barking when they go out for the day.
But since they got their letter somehow they are keeping their dogs quiet so why couldn’t they had done that before.
It won’t last they will keep them quiet until the four week data recording on sheets are finished.
The daughters are as bad .

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cuddly61 · 31/08/2018 17:14

This is what they would do before I had a second driveway put in last year.my car parked outside my own house .their drive was empty .
Police did nothing but they came out after the woman had gone to work in her car.

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cuddly61 · 31/08/2018 17:16

Try again lol

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cuddly61 · 31/08/2018 17:17

That’s his lorry back end overhanging my car bonnet

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Iloveeating · 31/08/2018 17:21

Oh wow that is so shit. Could you try speaking to a solicitor?

ProudThrilledHappy · 31/08/2018 17:23

Is he self employed? Not sure what his customers would think if he is using his work vehicle to intimidate and block in neighbours

DoinItForTheKids · 31/08/2018 17:33

I mean, looking at that photo OP, that's harassment in my opinion.

Nightfall1 · 31/08/2018 17:35

england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/complaints,_courts_and_tribunals/complaints_about_neighbours
I don't have time to explain fully - sorry but have a look at this and see if you can get some help. Good luck.

ainsisoisje · 31/08/2018 17:41

That sounds horrendous. Do asbos still exist and could their behaviour fall under that? If they are intimidating you when you walk in the front door that would cause me so much stress but some people really feel that kind of behaviour is totally acceptable.

Theresnodisneyending · 31/08/2018 17:42

Oh god, OP - feel your pain. We used to have neighbours like this. Ended up moving (we rented, couldn't afford it anymore), but it was utterly irrational, nasty, and just made me think, what's the point to all this? Some people are just utterly fucked up with nothing else better to do with their petty little lives. Keeps gathering evidence like ths, keep filing reports with the council, don't give up.

PanamaPattie · 31/08/2018 17:47

Have you though of renting a new home and renting out your old home to cover your rent etc? That way you get away from them but retain ownership.

TheQueef · 31/08/2018 17:51

You will have to declare neighbour issue when you sell too.

Are there any restrictions on renting for the first X years or is that permitted?

Whatsthisbear · 31/08/2018 17:52

What horrible spiteful neighbours you have. 3 years is a long time to wait to move, so sorry you have to deal with all this. I have no advice except log, record, photograph it all. It’s awful you have to live next to them behaving like that.
Although now police/council are involved doesn’t it to be declared to prospective buyers?

LakieLady · 31/08/2018 17:57

Are they still council/HA tenants? If so, I'd be keeping a record of every act of harrassment and nuisance and report it to their housing officer. My local council take this sort of thing very seriously and wouldn't hesitate to act.

One of the housing officers in particular would be round there ripping them a new one unless they signed an acceptable behaviour contract. They once got an ASBO banning someone from the entire council area, if all housing officers were like them, there'd be no such thing as "sink estates".

longwayoff · 31/08/2018 18:00

Rent your house to students who will not give a fig for neighbours. Charfe enough to cover your mortgage and move somewhere civilised

cuddly61 · 31/08/2018 19:05

I’m not bothered really if I have to declare it when I sell it. I can’t let them get away with all this .
It is a company he works for but they already knew he had to go to court but whether he told them the truth I doubt it. No normal person leans and pushes on a neighbours brand new fence just about 30 minutes after it’s been put up and pushes all the posts out of line.
I’ve emailed the local police who know their history and said I’m making a formal complaint for harrasement.
The photo I put on the policewoman didn’t even want to look at as by then the woman had gone to work in her car and suspicious he moved his lorry right outside his own house even overhanging his drive to do that. Before the policewoman arrived she just said there is no law about where anyone parks and I didn’t know they had done it on purpose . But she told him to be more considerate when parking.
He parked this lorry opposite my drive the next day.
The only policeman who stood up for me retired just before the court case.

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Idliketoteachtheworldtosing1 · 31/08/2018 19:14

I feel your pain OP it's awful when you have neighbours like that.
We have one woman in our close who is the most obnoxious person I have ever had the misfortune to meet, she is vile.
Her whole life revolves around the close, she tries to play people off each other and has caused numerous rows, most of us ignore her. I don't understand what people gain from being so awful your home should be your sanctuary. I agree with the others that you need to log it down and report each incident, perhaps go to CAB. We are in a HA property and they rarely do anything when complaints are made, our neighbour from hell screams obscenities at her young children it's awful.
I hope you can get things sorted, hopefully karma will sort them out, all the best.

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