to think this was an odd thing to say

[MrsDeaconClaybourne]

(Apologies - very trivial but having a very quiet day!)

I've just taken in a parcel for NDN and the delivery man said "ooh they must have plenty money - 2 cars in the drive and no-one at home!" I was [confuses]

It makes no sense does it? Often we have both cars at home because I've walked to work and DH has got the train - is being able to leave your car at home a sign of wealth and I just haven't heard of it? The more I think about it, the less I understand! (I know I can just stop thinking about it!)

It is odd yes. I don't understand his logic, unless he assumes everyone drives to work...

I presume he meant that they were ‘spare’ cars, ie they were using others to get to work.

Still a bit odd to comment!

Hah we have 3 cars in the drive. Two are under covers in pieces, one has an engine and one has a gearbox. Still, we must also look posh.

Generally families have 2 cars because at least one of them needs a car to get to work.
So having 2 cars and not needing them to get to work does seem to be a case of at least 1 unnecessary car. Of course maybe neither adult happens to work on a Friday and they've taken the dog for a walk.

I imagine the delivery man was fed up because he'd assumed someone must be at home due to cars.

Some people say something rather than say nothing, feeling they have to 'make conversation' - including people making deliveries. Often in a loud voice. They need to be taught not to.

Imagine if your neighbour was upstairs asleep, ill in bed and heard that remark? I'd be livid if that was me.

Take no notice, he is a stupid clod.

Why would you "be livid"? It's hardly a massive insult.

Thank you - I think I understand the 'logic' a bit now even though it doesn't hold up. It vaguely irritated me for the reasons Rebecca said - just a bit judgemental but mainly cos I couldn't understand his thinking. He might have thought the same about me at home during the day (I work term time)

A lot of assumptions fly about, and yes people sometimes feel the need to comment rather than say nothing. Not always a bad thing, he was asking a favour and may have felt he should be friendlier than 'hey, take this, thanks bye'.

I felt the need to tell my neighbour I was on nights and not just lazy when she saw me having a cup of tea in my pjamas at lunchtime one day last week!

To keep two cars which you don't need during the working week does imply you can afford them. Basically having two cars which are only used at weekends. Of course, that relies on a load of assumptions.

I think he was just making conversation- he was pleasant and friendly - I just didn't understand his logic. I get it a bit better now even though it means some huge assumptions. It's always funny to discover other people are making a judgement about people on something that has never even crossed your mind. A friend of my DM once said she didn't like how the people who had bought her old house left their wheelie bin at the front Until then I had honestly never noticed where anyone left their bin let alone made a judgement about it!