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To think there should be a 3 year time limit on the Facebook memories thing?

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toomuchtooold · 31/08/2018 08:10

Facebook has just shown me something that happened nine years ago. Nine years! I don't want to know about that! I really think they should only show you stuff from up to 3 years into the past, and anything older, just label it as "a while ago" so as not to kill me with the shock of knowing it's nearly a decade since I last went out dancing or whatever.

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Awkwardsness101 · 31/08/2018 10:56

I think if it would be good if they could implement a setting for this, so you get to choose how far back to go. Some people might like the older memories, but a choice would be nice. I think they already have it so you can choose not to see certain people in your memories.

somewhereovertherain · 31/08/2018 10:57

I love the older ones popping up as shows my DDs when quite young.

NewGrandad · 31/08/2018 10:59

I just shared a memory from 4 years ago. It's good to look back.

SwedishEdith · 31/08/2018 11:01

I wonder if it shows things from violent exes or people who are now dead?

Dulra · 31/08/2018 11:06

Never really thought about it before I post so little on fb that get very little memories but mainly a few of when my kids were young which I enjoy looking at but you are right not everyone wants to be reminded continually about what happened 5, 10 years ago so there should be a setting to switch it of

kaytee87 · 31/08/2018 11:07

Message Facebook about it then. I'm not sure the developers are on mn Grin

Secretlifeofme · 31/08/2018 11:08

I thought this today. I was confronted with a picture of my abusive ex from 8 years ago. We are no longer fb friends and in fact have blocked each other, so I don't see why they couldn't create an algorithm to prevent this kind of thing from popping up.

Dulra · 31/08/2018 11:08

SwedishEdith my cousin took his life a few years ago which was pretty traumatic for us all and I still get reminders that it is his birthday and so on. His sisters obviously have not closed his fb account I don't want to unfollow him because I sometimes like looking at some of his old pics but it can be hard when it pops up that it is his birthday and he is xx years old and do I want to wish him a happy birthday Sad

cardibach · 31/08/2018 11:09

I prefer the older memories as I’m more like,y to have forgotten about them!

BevBrook · 31/08/2018 11:09

I actually prefer the older memories as the more recent ones feel like they have only just happened!

BevBrook · 31/08/2018 11:09

Ooh x post with cardibach

PawneeParksDept · 31/08/2018 11:09

@SwedishEdith it does and is one of the reasons I left Facebook

PaddysMarket · 31/08/2018 11:10

There is a setting to change what memory it reminds you of, like a certain year or name.

DontFundHate · 31/08/2018 11:11

Hahaha oops I misread this and thought you meant a 3 times a year to share your memories limit, some people on my FB are sharing several memories everyday! It's so boring!!!
(Yes I have unfolllwed them)

PaddysMarket · 31/08/2018 11:11

Here is the setting.

To think there should be a 3 year time limit on the Facebook memories thing?
Metaplasia · 31/08/2018 11:11

You can change your settings so it only shows things from certain time periods or you can tell it to stop showing you memories of certain people etc

Redglitter · 31/08/2018 11:13

I love the older memories. I love my old photos coming up. I've had a few came up referring to my ex but I just delete them so they don't come up again.

HarrietSchulenberg · 31/08/2018 11:21

I've just seen one of mine from 9 years ago. It was lovely seeing my kids all together when they were little as they're rarely in the same room these days, let alone the same photo.

Just ignore the ones you don't want to see by scrolling fast!

Lindy2 · 31/08/2018 11:22

I love the memories. A 8 year one popped up the other day which included our now deceased cat. It was a happy and sad memory at the same time.
I do understand though that some people will have events that they do not want reminders of. Some sort of block option would make sense.

ludog · 31/08/2018 11:28

A video of my deceased SIL popped up on my timeline this morning. It really shook me.

ReanimatedSGB · 31/08/2018 11:28

Another one who likes that function - pictures of DS when he was younger, a few comments from friends who are dead now. but I agree there should be an option to get rid, if there's stsuff you really don't want to see again.

Pieceofpurplev · 31/08/2018 11:29

Today's showed me how far I have come after my exh left and shattered me.

troodiedoo · 31/08/2018 11:29

I wish you could block other people's memories. Hmm

VanGoghsDog · 31/08/2018 11:31

I turned it off all together. I hated it. My sister does it all the time, sharing rubbish from years ago 'ooh, look, this time last year I was on a beach', 'oh no, this was the time before I knew my husband was an adulterer and I was happy....' - it's very tedious.

movinonup · 31/08/2018 11:31

I used to love the memories thing on facebook.
I'm hating it right now because every single picture has my GSD in it and we had to put her to sleep a couple of months ago. Even if the photo isn't of her, There is still a paw or a tail visible as she was always there

:(
The simple solution would be not to look of course, But I can't seem to stop myself. Daftie!