I'll try to keep it short. I'm in my 30s, and my parents split 18 yrs ago, my dad has a partner of 10 or so yrs, I used to get on with her, but after sticking up for my dad on one of her Facebook posts, it caused a row, online with her, the sister and mouthy nice joined in. Things have been OK since. He's told my sister that my dad and her are planning on going to Gretna Green to get married, made her swear to keep it a secret, but it's plastered on her Facebook though! (we aren't friends on it) what would you do? I recently have adopted the mindset not to waste my time on people that don't matter. I feel like just never speaking to him again. I have a son who's 3 and I'm separated from his dad if it matters! I have wanted him to have a good connection with my family and its like pulling teeth. I probably see him 3-4 times a year, 'she' has always got plans for him on his days off. There's no inheritance to worry about so that isn't an issue!