Just need to rant re MIL

[GinGarden]

AIBU? 8weeks of summer hols & DH & I work flat out in various tourism businesses so DCs never have a summer holiday and not much time with family. MiL lives 1m up the road but does nothing with them, has not once had us or even just them around for an evening meal. Tonight I am flat out trying to get ready for school but DH arrnges for PiL to come around for ‘tea’ ...why the hell can’t THEY have US around for ‘tea’ or better still SUPPER! I am so pissed off! Yes, they are aristocracy and yes they see things differently from the rest of us BUT FFS live in the real world. ...please!!!!!!! Rant over!

YANBU rant away! I wouldn't go to any effort in that case. They can come and see you and enjoy your company and a cup of tea but don't go mad tidying or preparing anything special.

I hope he’s making and serving the tea?

You have a husband problem.
Go run the bath and leave everything to your husband.

If they’re so nearby, why not just drop in on them? They’re family, you shouldn’t have to wait for a formal invitation, surely? Have you tried actually asking them to help out in the holidays? What did they say?

My parents (not together) are like this. They don't give a shiny shite about their DGC (it seems). My DB is constantly trying to organise outings/get togethers etc but they're just not interested.

Luckily, the kids have a cool aunt and uncle (us!) who look after them and are interested in them. DM lives 45 mins away (by the seaside) and has done nothing at all with the kids all summer, nothing. DSIL parents live 3 hours away and will come up for the night if my DB and SIL need a night off.*

*Disclaimer - we live abroad so can't help out as much as we'd like.

DH arrnges for PiL to come around for ‘tea’

So obviously he is doing all the cooking and everything. Right?

Tell your husband to deal with them and them head to the bath with an enormous glass of wine.

Your dh can make the dinner then!

OMG, I love my PILs but DP wouldn't arrange for them to come over for dinner without running it by me first twice, no matter who was expected to cook!

...just a small point, but why, when your reference to PIL indicates the existence of a FIL as well, does only your MIL come in for your wrath for not pitching in with your children? Is it on account of her uterus?

You don’t need to rant about your PILs, you need to rant about your DH. He invited them.

I'll send you my MIL, she loves children and will happily have them every minute.

No returns policy though

She's fucking nuts