Pregnant and bridesmaid at a wedding!

[Lostmymind26]

So long story! I'll try to keep it short!
I'm a bridesmaid at one of my close friends weddings next year. However I am pregnant. I will be either heavily pregnant or just had the baby at the wedding. Friend has just messaged me asking me for my dress size as she is ordering the dresses from America then we will have them fitted if anything needs changing closer to the time. I'm currently a size 12. If I am heavily pregnant there is no way in gods earth I will fit in this dress. There is no room for adding panels etc!

Ordinarily I'd just have a chat with friend and explain the situation but I'm being a bit precious about this pregnancy. I lost our last baby due to some abnormalities found at our first scan and I really don't want to tell anyone about this pregnancy yet. I would like to keep it between my husband and I until I have had a scan at 12 weeks. I'm really anxious and I don't really want to think about babies until I know this one is okay and growing (I know that's daft but I just have really been shook up by my loss).

I mentioned to friend a month ago when she first said about bridesmaid duties etc that I was trying again and that I might have to let her know about dresses closer to the time but she said due to the timing they must be ordered by next month and now she is asking :-/ what do I do? Should I just tell her?

Don't want to drop feed so I'll say while my friend is lovely she can be a bit immature and not always the most sensitive of peoples feelings!

Any advice would be great! I can't be the only person in this situation 🙈

I would just be careful in terms of promising you will try to go if you have just given birth - make sure she isn't the sort of bride who won't think about you wanting to bring the baby if you're breastfeeding, for example.

I have a friend who wanted to book a holiday in August and I knew I'd be 30 weeks pregnant, therefore unlikely to want to fly, so I ended up telling her at about 10 weeks before anyone else. But I did only do this because I knew she wouldn't breathe a word and because she lives 250 miles away so wasn't likely to spill to my other friends and family.

@hammeringinmyhead oh I have :) she has said if we have had a baby she would love to have us all there :-) I don't trust her not to let slip as she is crap at keeping secrets 🙈

Just remember that most dresses can be altered down a couple of sizes, but it's very difficult to alter them up! If you've had the baby by then you might be able to fit something a size bigger than normal (ie a 14 in your case), but if you're 9 months pregnant, there's no way a fitted size 14 will fit - and it's unlikely it can be made bigger.
Also think of the boobs! If you're breast feeding, even if the rest of you is a size 14, there's no telling what your boobs could be doing! They may very well not fit into a size 14 fitted dress even if the rest of you does. Going for a bigger dress is sensible, but better to order a few sizes bigger maybe?
Congratulations on your pregnancy