Pregnant and DH going on at me about diet.

[Miss123]

I'm 33 weeks pregnant. The idea of eating meat makes me feel sick right now and I've gone off it completely. My husband has been cooking meals for us and putting meat on the plate telling me 'the baby needs it'. I tell him I've gone off meat. He gets annoyed and keeps going on about how I need to eat it. It's driving me fucking crazy. I am taking ferrous sulphate so I get enough iron, I eat lots of veg, have a healthy salad at lunch every day. My bloods are all okay. Yes I am a bit anaemic but the midwife said no amount of meat will bring this up and that I will be fine as long as I keep taking supplements and eating veg.

Now I know I am more irritable than usual, but AIBU to think that he needs to back off and trust me to eat a healthy diet? I feel like he's treating me like a child.

Your body tells you what you need when you're pregnant. Even those poor ladies who end up eating bath sponges and dirt are doing it to make up for lack of certain minerals. As long as you're eating protein you're fine

It is your choice what you eat. However if he is worried explain to him. Also explain you cant abide the taste. Cook some of the meals yourself

I eat veg. I eat fish. I eat fruit. I eat meat occasionally. I get protein through loads of sources. I eat cheese and have a natural yoghurt every morning. My diet is absolutely fine but he won't listen to me and keeps going on about meat like I'm a fucking Neanderthal. I love him to bits, but he's driving me crazy!

If your diet was a problem, your midwife would be telling you. She is happy, so it's fine. It's fairly safe to assume that she knows more about pregnancy than your husband. Remind him of that.

Tell him you will eat an orange with your meal, it helps you absorb the iron in green leafy vegetables. Astound him with science

This is the only thing he is worried about. He has done next to nothing throughout the first 7 months of my pregnancy and hardly batted an eyelid when I was vomiting on a daily basis and suddenly now in my 8th month it's important that I eat meat!!

Sorry this is such a ranty thread I'm just having a moment.

@Confusedbeetle I actually do this! I drink a glass of orange juice with every meal and with my ferrous sulphate!

There are plenty of healthy pregnant vegetarians, as long as you know you are getting the calories and protein you need, tell him to sod off! I've gone off meat a bit too, not completely but probably three or four days a week I eat veggie , I started doing it without realising because I was eating what I fancied (cheese...). If you take a pregnancy multivitamin you're getting what you need anyway

Wow, I wish someone told me I was harming my unborn baby by being vegetarian

As long as you're getting protein from other sources, you're fine and baby is fine.

Tell him to shoosh! I pretty much went off all savoury food for most of my pregnancy, and my little boy was fine!

If he wasn't interested til now, is it just because he wants meaty meals and can't be bothered to cook separately for you?

Tell him he'll be put off eating meat too when you vomit it all over him.

I ate almost entirely mashed potato in the first 2/3rds of my 1st pregnancy, and mostly jacket potatoes in the first 2/3rds of my second. Both my babies are now on tallest centile, and super healthy. I think my midwife said that if you aren't eating it, they baby will just take it from your body! They will be fine- you might be exhausted, but you'll soon recover your appetite once baby arrives!

Oh gosh ...however did my dc turn out ok,as i was vegan when pregnant with them...they are 6 foot 4 strapping hulks of men now ....and they are vegan too....I suppose he means well op,I had morning sickness and it's nasty ,so some concern there for you would of been nice...good luck with the baby ,and getting dh to pipe down x

I hazard a guess that 'someone has told him something' about protein and 'a horrible event' and it's got him freaked out. You know;

Him; " Miss123 has really gone off meat the last couple of weeks. She used to love a good steak, now she won't touch it."

Busybody down the pub/work/shop: OMG!! She must eat meat! My sister'shusband'scousin'swife didn't eat meat when she was pregnant and

I would tell him stress is far more harmful to both baby and you than eating veggie so he needs to lay off you and stop pushing your stress levels up. If you’re feeling generous maybe sit him down and explain this calmly at a time when he’s not trying to make you eat a pork chop

"Your body tells you what you need when you're pregnant."

Bullshit and your midwife sounds equally deluded.

@businessModel care to elaborate?

Blimey, your husband would be absolutely horrified at my diet 😂😂 also how do you get him to cook you dinner? My husbands idea of "cooking" is putting some chips or a pizza in the oven.

I'll explain in more detail what my midwife told me. She said something about iron levels taking a fairly long time to rise, and whilst mine aren't super low, eating meat alone is unlikely to raise my iron levels significantly in order for them to be over the 105 cutoff to give birth in a MLU. She has given me ferrous sulphate which is a fairly high dose to make sure my iron levels are above 105 by 37 weeks, and has said my body will absorb all the good stuff I need from these. If I continue to eat healthily, with lots of green vegetables and take these tablets with a glass of orange juice a day, I will be fine. If I were to add meat on top of this, it would make absolutely no difference to the amount of iron I absorb. Eating meat on its own without the ferrous sulphate tables would not be enough to bring my iron levels up in 4 weeks. I don't think that sounds deluded, at all. It makes absolute sense...

Sorry but men who feel the need to tell their pregnant partners what to eat/do fuck me off. You didn't lose your faculties, you're growing a whole new person. Which he couldn't, regardless of how much meat he shoved down his gaping maw.

Tell him to mind his own. Body that is. And you'll mind yours. Which is still yours, passenger or not.

I’d shout st him I’ve decided I can’t handle the pressure you’re putting on me so I’m now vegetarian and IM NEVER EATING MEAT AGAIN AND BRINGING UP BABY VEGETARIAN TOO AND ITS ALL BECAUSE OF YOU. or, you could just accept I’m not eating meat at the moment? YOUR CHOICE!
Pregnant hormones what?
But, my two healthy sons are living proof you can grow great babies while going breatharian for the first few months (ok not quite, but certainly not eating enough to keep me alive for long!) and then eating anything with a high calory count to make up for it. Chips, cake, milkshakes, donuts =yes. Veg, especially hot ones = no.