Teenage DS sleep issues

[ReanimatedSGB]

For context, DS is 13 (very nearly 14) and somewhere on the spectrum: we are on the waiting list for a CAHMS assessment. He's young for his age in a lot of ways.

He's having another spell of troubled sleep and nightmares, and so he wants to sleep in my bed. I have asked him if there is anything he needs to talk about, if anyone is being unkind to him, if he has worries about school - and also banned him from watching bloody ghost stories on Youtube, which clearly isn't helping.

I am prepared to put up with him sleeping in my bed now and again, though I don't really like it (he snores and wriggles) but also slightly worried that people will think it's 'inappropriate' for a teenager to kip in the same bed as a parent.

Couldn't read and run.

OP your son needs you, and you have his back. You are taking steps to stop him scaring the bejaysus out of himself with Youtube and keeping communication open. What other people think about him being in your bed when he is frightened isn't an issue. How would they even know, unless you tell them?

My DD is 13 and regularly comes into our bed, there isn't much room, I am a big lady and her Dad is no lightweight, but she wants us close and that is what we are there for. There is nothing inappropriate about it. As for the snoring and wriggling - he will move out some day and you will miss it!

Could you sit on the end of his bed it might make him secure enough to fall asleep and may have a trouble free night.

Thank you. I'll let him do it until he feels calmer (I tried being firm last night about him needing to be in his own bed, which resulted in floods of tears... I did give in, in the end.)

None of anyone else s business where your ds sleeps. It's good you're there for him.
I scared myself silly the other night watching ghost adventures on poveglia on YouTube and had to put the light on and I m 50

Op my DS 14 is much the same with an ASD referral pending. I lie on his bedroom floor until he falls asleep and we chat while he winds down (which can take a long time). Once he's snoring I leave. If it wasn't for DH I think I'd share with him so I could go bed earlier.

my boy is 10 and still sleeps with me and has done since he was 6 weeks old. no sign of him stopping anytime soon either. who cares what other people think is ‘appropriate.’ i’ve also had nightmares since i was little and still wish i could snuggle in with my mum after a particularly bad one.