To find these comments from a man a turn off?

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I am bit perplexed by something that happened last night. I'd love to hear some perspectives on the matter.

Yesterday night I saw New Man, whom I have been dating for the last couple of months. He is handsome, smart and funny, and things seem to be progressing well.

However, yesterday night he made a couple of weird comments while we were having dinner.

He was telling me about this fancy wedding he attended recently, and said something along the lines of "they broadcasted the wedding from the family's castle to the nearby village. It was pouring rain and all the plebs had to sit there getting soaked under the rain, while we were comfortably sitting inside ahah". This was clearly meant as a joke

Later in the night, he stated that "re-hearing risotto is peasant-y". What a knob!!

AIBU to feel really turned off by these comments? Seriously wondering if I should keep dating this twat man.

It wouldn’t actually bother me. But it bothers you and that’s enough.
Signed, a pleb.

Anyone who says "broadcasted" has to go, I'm afraid.

That sort of comment, even as a one-off, tells me all I need to know about a person. I had a conversation with someone I thought was fairly nice, until she started going on about the local country club waiving its extortionate initiation fee to attract new families and therefore letting in a “lesser clientele”.

It's not reheating rice dishes that's risky - it's when they are left at room temperature for too long, some kind of spores can develop in the rice which are not killed off by reheating.

oh dear, I think his nice act is dropping, he sounds very up himself which is a turn off.

He sounds insecure and like he's trying to impress you.

I think it's quite normal to use "plebs" in a jokey way, but only if you are putting yourself in the pleb category! I.e. "They were all living it up in the castle and us plebs were stuck outside in the rain!"

But doing it the other way round shows him up as a snob, and unplesasantly heartless. It would put me off.

Re-heating risotto is dangerous, not "peasanty" though. I'm surprised he thinks peasants (if they still existed) eat risotto. :o

It's true you can reheat rice if you follow very careful procedure to chill it immediately etc. Obviously you can get ready meals with rice in them. But the problem is that if the spores are there, the toxin will not be removed however much you heat it - and when you do this at home you don't have the testing and equipment to make sure they're not there.

So long as risotto is reheated thoroughly it's perfectly safe. Same with all rice dishes. I've had reheated risotto MANY times!

This is not true, but it is true you can do it many times with no ill effect - it's just that there is a risk, and though the risk is small, the effects are horrible.

It's all in the tone surely? You could say those comments in a way where they were obvious jokes. But if you think he's a frightful snob then dump him.

I bristle at the word "pleb" ever since a woman on the bus called my DH one. She didn't know he was my DH.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who even has a snobby, spiteful tone, no matter how rarely it appears.

I'd rather be alone than with an embarrassment like him. Imagine if he said something like that in front of your friends and family. I'd be mortified.

It's the dumper for him and the hills for you.

If reheating risotto is dangerous, then everyone should stop making and serving arancini then?

If I were you I would have already ditched him the moment I found out his political views. Conservative men, even mildy conservative men, have a tendency to look down on women. Not worth it, imo.

Some harsh responses here.

I wouldn't chuck him in the bin just yet op

DP and I do joke around about things being ‘proley’ or we’ll call each other a prole. It is a joke, we don’t mean any offence by it and it’s a clear reference to Karl Marx/Lenin/Stalin- we’re both modern history nerds.

This guy didn’t sound as though he was joking though, he sounds like he has an elitist attitude. I would also be running.

Sorry, I should clarify I've reheated many risotto's (risotti?) Once, not one risotto many times lol

still misses point of thread

I'd rather be alone than with an embarrassment like him. Imagine if he said something like that in front of your friends and family. I'd be mortified.

That is exactly what I was thinking.

It really depends on how he's saying it.

1. "The plebs are getting wet."

More of a joke about people broadcasting their wedding and expecting random strangers to sit in the rain and watch it... (Or said random strangers that actually do this.)

1. The Risotto:

Could be self-deprecating if he himself habitually reheats risotto...

If not: he's quite obviously an arse.