if I don't want my son to drink out of a bottle?!

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He's 10 months old nearly, drinks really well out of a doidy or a spouty cup and is still bf so I never give him a bottle. He's not had one for ages as I stopped expressing a few months back now. However, my parents are constantly going on at me telling me that he needs to drink out of a bottle.

Surely the whole point is to get them to move away from bottles towards cups, which he drinks from brilliantly and has done for months!? They keep going on about it though and it's really annoying...

Why? It doesn't really matter, but I think in theory you stop using a bottle at 1 year, even if you have been using one since birth, so why would he need to start using one now? They are obviously wrong, but I am quite intrigued by their logic.

YANBU.

I think you are doing great. I definitely think a bottle would be a step back at this stage. Wish it had worked out that way for me. Breastfed for 10 months and all of a sudden dd just refused to bf again. I panicked and gave her a bottle. She is 14 months now and LOVES her bottles. My MIL is delighted. She never liked the breast feeding much and mentions at every opportunity now how great the bottle is and that it's great dd loves hers and every baby needs a bottle. It drives me mad to be honest.

ah they just want to look after him and be all soggy over him

strangely parents and grandparents dont bother to keep up with new parenting advice

YANBU
My dd is 21 months old and she's been drinking from a sippy cup since she was 6 or 7 months old, but wouldn't drink her milk at night from anything but a bottle until about a month ago. I was starting to worry about her teeth (bottle rot and all that!) but my dentist was really kind and said occassional bottles wouldn't hurt. Even so, I think if you've managed so far without one, then introducing one is like a step back! Stick to your guns, you're the mummy after all!

Mine both went from breast to cup, and I've never regretted it. Don't give in, maybe you have to say "look, nothing you tell me is going to change my mind on this". It'll probably upset them, but I foresee this being the first of many battles unless you stand your ground!

I think the missing out on giving a bottle could be a big part of it.

I did express, and DS now has bottles, but my mum feels like she missed out on the early bonding that she had with DD with the overnighters and the bottles.

You're not being unreasonable, but I can see where they are coming from

do what I do when someone is giving unwanted advice

listen and nod in the right places then

completely ignore it

or in this case tell them you are sure he will drink out of a bottle when he is older, a beer bottle

Have you asked them why?

I think Flame is right, why they feel like that. But you can still cuddle a baby whilst giving them a sippy cup!

There's nothing wrong with drinking from a cup, it's better to avoid tooth decays and overfeeding. My daughter hated bottles so she went from breast to sippy cup and she is very contented and healthy.

My mother in law was really annoying the first time we went to visit her with DD, she was questioning every single decision I made and all based on how she used to raise my husband 35 years ago. Needless to say she was wrong most of the times and the rest of the time it was a question of how you choose to raise your child. Sometimes the best thing to do is to be firm and let them know you are in control of the situation and you are the one who calls the shots. I came across a bit strong but I was going mad having to justify every single decision I made, I was exhausted and didn't have time for that.

Later I realised she was just desperate to be helpful so I gave her a mission to find how to cure my baby's thrush, it kept her busy and I had some much deserved peace!

But they would hardly be "giving" a child this age his bottle, anyway, would they, in the way that you give a small baby a bottle? Mine did have the occasional bottle at 10 months but then they drank out of it themselves: not the bonding experience of bottle feeding a newborn baby at all. No different from the cups and mugs they also drank out of.

yadnbu. Just an example of people trying to interfere. Do it your way.

Neither ds or dd have ever drunk anything form a bottle, and yet they both automatically feed toy babies with them, strange that

The OP's child is now 3 and a half, I would imagine he's well past bottles now

I've just switched to giving my 2yr 3mo DS a cup instead of a bottle for his bedtime milk. I gave him a cup when he had a cold as it was easier for him to drink when he was bunged up and I couldn't see any reason to go back to a bottle. He honestly couldn't give a hoot as long as he gets his milk but I can tell that my MIL thinks it's quite cruel of me to deny him a bottle before bed.

When he was younger she was always nagging me to put baby rice in his bottle to fill him up.

We had better all make an effort to get up to date on the latest advice when we're the grandmothers

Oops, old thread.