To think this is a bit off?

[UsedtobeFeckless]

Rant alert ...
Youngish (20's) friend of a relative is trying to break into a particular field of work that l have some contact with - he told me he was looking, l mentioned it to a few people and one small firm were very interested in talking to him as they need someone with his skill set in a bit of a hurry as one of their employee's maternity cover had fallen through ... Whoop whoop thinks l and passed their details on to him. Then nowt. I know he's seen the message and the firm contacted me again today asking if he was interested - l passed that one on too and still deafening silence from job seeker boy ... How hard is it to fucking type no thanks!

Bah humbug ...

That's so rude, obviously doesn't really want a job!

So many people do that and it leaves you feeling like an idiot, I don’t bother now

At the beginning of the summer holidays I got my friend a job interview at my school. I took her there she looked as though she was wearing a tracksuit and was having a real melt down too. Which input down to anxiety. She was offered the job and was told to let them know by the following day. She never did stating she had questions to ask. So I asked on her behalf head replied. Then the day later she rang and left a message saying no thanks and supposedly that call didn’t get picked up till this week.

I am livid. She keeps saying she can’t break into schools. And then she had the cheek to tell me she was going to apply for a food technician role at a school that required experience and she has none. I came to the conclusion she is applying for jobs beyond her means. She angry talking about it never again x

I generally think you can’t help some people

He went on about how you can't get a job without experience and how can you get that without getting a job - l genuinely thought l was doing him a favour! Just blanking me has really pissed me off, l look like an idiot with the other firm now, too!

This has happened to so many people I know. It's weird - you'd think someone would be so happy they were being helped.

That would annoy me. As a manager though I wouldnt judge someone as it happens a lot. Don't worry.

Does it look patronising? I can't believe l'm actually worrying l've offended him - gah!

Has he been distracted by something shiny?

He sounds like a big baby. Perhaps he was expecting you to pick him up and deliver him to his new job, having done an interview for him.

That would really annoy me!

One thing I’ve learnt from running businesses (hotels but that obviously comes with networking so it’s happened in other business too) is this nearly always backfires and now I wouldn’t even do it for my closest friends. It’s sounds awful, it really does but now I just stay quiet and never, ever offer even when the opportunity is staring me in the face. People have probably noticed too but I honestly don’t care anymore. It’s too stressful when you’re in the middle and it’s not worth it, and it always always looks bad on you, even though it absolutely shouldn’t.

If it's any consolation my friend's DH refused to do this for own son. My friend and her DH had huge arguments as she said it was his duty to help their son get into a particular field that her DH dealt with as part of his job. Her DH pointed out that their son was flakey at best and bloody lazy at and entitled at worst. He had walked out of part time jobs because he couldn't be bothered and thought they were beneath him. He refused a summer job offered by a mutual friend because it involved wearing a uniform and it was embarrassing. Instead of letting the mutual friend letting he wasn't interested he ignored the calls and texts and complained to his mother the friend was hassling him, what was her problem and couldn't she take the hint. Friends DH said he would only introduce him to his contacts when their son changed his attitude and grew up.

I would be annoyed too. You've put yourself out and he is behaving like an arse. I would send a blunt message to the boy saying he needs to let you know now or he can forget it.

I'm seeing the people concerned today - l messaged Job Boy yesterday to say please let me/them know if you are interested. He saw the message but didn't reply so when they ask l'll just tell them what's happened ( minus the expletives ) and let them make up their own minds about what a twonk he is ...

I'd message him again and say to him if your not interested just say it's rude to not reply thought I was doing you a favour. Then tell work he's not getting back to you so mustn't be interested sorry about that. Don't ever help him again he can find his own job, he will learn it's not easy to get a job.

He’s a waster-do nothing further for him. Inspire of me saying I don’t bother anymore, I recently saw a job ad on Instagram which could have been written for my friend/ex business partner and messaged it to her (twice) it was near where she lives and they are soon relocating to her small town -win win , she has a good interview but still moans that it is £5 k less than she ideally wants (the salary she wants is way more than most places will pay) -what more does she want? There is even no weekend working as that is available as overtime and they are very pro childcare issues. You can’t help some people