WIBU to send a note to a kid's mum via school bag...?

[Babypythagorus]

We've just moved, and my 4yo is really missing having friends, and in particular, is desperate to have a friend over to play (something she used to do all the time in our old place).

How do you invite kids over to play when you don't know the parents? Would the nursery pass on a note for me? How long is reasonable for them to play together at nursery and like each other before inviting someone over? Do you invite them with parents first? Offer a drop off?

Argh, such a minefield. Help please, wise mumsnetters...

Fine to pass a note via nursery staff but I would expect the parents to stay for a play date at age 4 especially as they don’t know you. So keep it to an hour or 2 in case you can’t stand them. With any luck you’ll make a new friend too.

Do you do pick up or drop offs? If so could you explain the issue to a couple of mums or dads and invite a few if them round for coffee some sat afternoon?

Classlist?

I just shout ‘where’s Henry/Oliver/Dylan’s mummy’ in the playground until I find them and introduce myself

If you won’t see parents at drop off I think a friendly note suggesting X comes to play or a meet up at the park giving your mobile number would be fine.

Note in book bag.

The norm isn't to stay with the child here though. I usually go with "will little Tarvin be happy to come by himself or would you like to come for a cup of tea?"

ok, brilliant, thank you. I shall do some variant of this, and hope it is the socially acceptable thing round here!!

(we moved from London to a very remote island, where we were thoroughly shocked when a mother just appeared at our house one day and said our kids were friends, should we hang out. We've now moved again, to a slightly less remote place, so are completely baffled!!)