Party Invites

[Ruperbear]

So here goes... decided to have a Party to celebrate a Special Wedding Anniversary and now beginning to wish I hadn’t bothered. How many times is reasonable to ask people if they can attend. ?? I am trying to cater and waiting for replies from so many people!! My Ds has been a star and making notes of all the invited and crossing off and ticking when they reply but even he is at the stage of giving up on it. Why is it people haven’t the time or the decency to say Yes or No. ?? Should I keep contacting them or just put them as a “No” ? 😠

That’s a shame, I think it’s terrible when people don’t rsvp to invites.

Whatever you do don’t ask mumsnet if you can ask for a contribution from your guests 😂

I hope your party goes well and you have a fab night

I always put in a date to RSVP by, I also then try and physically ask the person or Whatsapp/text them closer to the RSVP date. It is annoying but does get the result of getting all the answers in.

It is so rude of people.
I would message them and specifically sy you need to know for the catering by Fri 31st, and if you don't hear by then you will assume they can't come or something.
You shouldn't have to, of course, but it does seem to be more of a thing now than it ever was, that people just don't bother.

I wish I had put a date on after the RSVP. Will definitely do that in the future. I have chased a Couple of people up this morning, one has said yes but maybe no as they may have plans 😠 the other has said sorry they forgot to reply and they will let me know so still no further forward. To be honest my closest friends are all coming but as I have now invited the others I need to decide if or not I cater for them. !!

Thank you

God I hate this. My SIL had a similar problem and eventually put it as a private facebook event for those on facebook which gave people the option to accept or decline. You really shouldn't have to do that but it seemed that most (not all) of the people who saw the event could just about bring themselves to press a button to accept/decline, so it was helpful in that respect. One couple declined but turned up anyway and expected to stay the night. Unreal.

In days gone by, not replying to an invitation was seen as the height of bad manners. It still is, but lots of people either don't give a shit or are 'so busy they just don't have time' i.e. don't give a shit either. The 'don't know if they're free yet or not' crowd are the worst as they are basically saying that they won't commit in case they get a better offer.