I know IABU but this bothers me and I need to get over it

[TickledOnion]

ExH and I have 2 DCs. ExH has a very well paid job and is generous with child maintenance and with the DCs.

He took them to Florida for 2 weeks earlier in the summer and I’ve just taken them to Spain for a week. He buys them nice stuff and let’s them take it to mine or on holiday with me if they want though most of it stays with him.

I realise they are very lucky and I think they appreciate this and are not overly boastful.

My issue is that the DCs (understandably because they had such a great time) told people about their first holiday whilst on the 2nd one. And people ask about the stuff they have as it is quite desirable.

I feel embarrassed about this as it feels like we’re rubbing it in people’s faces which I hate. I feel I need to apologise for it and I say it’s nothing to do with me, it’s all from their dad.

I know it’s my issue but I hate feeling like we are lording it over people. AIBU? Do I need to tell them/him to rein it in? Or do I just need to get over it?

Depending on the age of your daughters I would have a talk about manners and not bragging

mmm I can see your point but talking about experience isn't really boasting, saynuf theve been asked what they habe been up to.

it's hard with out hearing it but it never hurts to remind children it's unkind to show off or brag.

Leave them be. They're kids and are happy with what they have.

You don't need to ask anyone to reign it in. Depending on their ages...you could speak to them about not showing off...but kids are kids and love to show others what they have.

Just go with the flow.

Unless they're going around saying "Ha! I've had two holidays and you've had one/none" id not worry tbh. You can't ask them not to talk about their experiences/ not to wear nice things in case it offends others. Obv if they are genuinely rubbing people's noses in it then act accordingly

It they're being unpleasant about it they'll soon learn not to by others' reactions. If they're not then there's no issue.

They aren’t unpleasant about it. They are 6 and 8 and I think they are just excited about their experiences. I’ll keep an eye on them and make sure it doesn’t turn into gloating.