To be sick of the constant moaning?

[QuestionableMouse]

I care for disabled mum which means I'm with her for most of the day when I'm not at work.

She moans constantly... If it's not about how crap she's feeling, it's about my sister and how she runs her house, or my auntie (who I also care for). That is literally all she talks about.

Coupled with the fact that she's getting upset with herself because she can't do what she wants and has started taking it out on me, it's fucking relentless and it's getting me down.

Even going out somewhere takes forever. We went into Asda today and we're in there for four hours which led to a screaming argument between my man and dad.

I know I probably sound like a bitch but I'm at the end of my rope. I'm not expecting a reply but just needed a vent.

No, you sound like a worn out human being.

Any chance of respite? You need it.

I fully agree that YANBU-no wonder you are exhausted. Bring a carer is incredibly draining and people can be difficult regardless of their health.

oh god love you - that sounds so hard.

Can you get any support at all?

Can social services organise some respite or a church group bring you a meal, set up a rota with your sister?

just a good rant on here might help a little.

On line shop.

Arrange to get her a professional carer. get yourself a full time job (if you don't already have one)

re-establish a parent/child relationship

I work either give or six days a week on top.

Sister can't help because she has a newborn and a toddler.

It's the constant moaning that's getting me down. We have the same conversations over and over again and it's always her bitching about something or something.

I don't think she'd accept a professional carer but it's something to look into.

Thank you though. Believe me, it helps.

I don't think she'd accept a professional carer but it's something to look into

Does accept come into it? Why are her needs more important than yours? Or indeed your sister's? Yes she has kids but presumably she chose to have kids rather than care for your mother, I am assuming that your mother has been disabled for a while. So why is she allowed a life but you are not? How can you care for two people when you are working 5/6 days a week? Do you ever sleep?

And why are you caring for your auntie as well?

My auntie had a serious stroke a few years ago and can no longer use public transport so I take her shopping every week. (That includes taxis as she gets frightened being in a car with a stranger). It's one or two days a week so not full time.

It's not about my sister's needs outweighing mine. She had a big (10 pound ) baby by section three weeks ago after a difficult pregnancy and can't physically do it (she's not allowed to drive for example).

You need help Questionable Mouse. Would be a good idea for you to have proper days off from doing all the caring and employing someone else to take your place. It's quite achievable, there are allowances to pay for it which everyone is entitled to.