To have told the bank manager I'd talk to my husband about it?

[TrappedByATurtle]

Not sure he's a manager, but he's the guy who's down as our contact for our bank accounts and mortgage.

Called him to find out how to do something. He says he'll send me the papers. Then starts talking about regulatory procedures and how we need to either transfer the mortgage link from our savings account to our current account or create a new "mortgage only" account.

I do admit I'm not good with financial stuff and need to see it written down before I actually understand it. So I asked him to send me the information when he sends me the info on what I originally called for and I would discuss with my husband and DH would call him back.

He then laughed and asked me sarcastically if it's DH who deals with all the money transactions then (I'm actually not sure how to answer this because they would only register the online banking account to one person so it's in DH's name. Technically he shouldn't let anyone else have the passwords...) So, I said it depends what it's for. "Oh, right" he said.

Now, I know it's a bit of a cop out the whole "I'll ask my husband" thing, but surely if it involves a change to our joint accounts then both of us should know about it and make a decision? Am I being pathetic or would you have gone ahead and told him to change it?

YANBU to have all the facts before making a decision YABVU to say that you need your dh to do it for you

I suspect there was a bonus for selling the product.

I'm quite capable of making my own decisions but too right I would want time to read the small print with dh for something like this. Dh would have the same inclination, too.

I'd be outraged if DH made a major change to a joint account without discussing it.

I'd certainly want anything major in writing before making a decision, and if it involved both of us, I'd be talking to DH too. Your bank guy was out of order in his comments.

In my experience, most tradesmen won't accept a job unless they know DH has also agreed to it. I've not found that, nor would I expect to. Every tradesman I've dealt with has been happy to deal just with me.

My husband will often say ill get the wife to call you its her area and vice versa its just an easy get out claus no argument.