To think my child is a dick today?

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So name changed as will obviously get flamed

I'm a SAHM currently to a 14 month old and a 2 week old.
Today they have both wanted feeding at exactly the same times, then when dd (the toddler) has finished her food she decides it's time to do things she most definitely should not be doing while I am stuck under newborn.
I've just gone round under the high chair picking up basically her entire lunch while she whinges that she's stuck in it.
I'm still hormonal and bleeding postpartum which has gotten worse since DH has gone back to work.
I've done several pooey nappies from each of them before it even hit lunch time, and I'm sat here in this muggy weather sweating and smelling like one of those bloody nappies.

It got to the stressful point where I had had enough and called toddler dd several swear names I won't repeat and I do feel incredibly guilty, but luckily she's not talking yet so won't be repeating them to my parents!

Please tell me I'm not alone in the chaotic life of having a newborn with other children? I thought it was so easy with my first....

Just so you dont feel alone:
Took a day off work today to do.something nice. Dd1, 3.5 has been an arse since she work up. Dd2, 16m is teething, appears to have eaten a lot of sand yesterday and has a bump and a cut on her head from falling off a pile of cushions that dd1 stacked on the sofa. Our trip out had been downgraded to a walk to the shop to get me some coldsore patches...

This is definitely easier than when dd2 was a newborn though! Most days

Been there OP with 2 under 2.
What biscuits and telly can you give 14mo?
Do you have a bath support for baby - run a nice bath and all get in together.
Go out for a walk - whatever kind of mess you look. It will pass the time and make a change from those 4 walls. Maybe to the off-licence for something for bedtime (for you, obvs, unless baby really not settling!!)

Thank you all for your lovely replies! I remember people telling me it would be hard at first, but until you're going through it you just can't comprehend it properly.
Somanymistakes thank you so much for the great ideas! And yes my DH often told me when I was pregnant with dc2 that I need to ask people for help more often, I just feel like a failure if I have to (which I know is ridiculous, all mums need help now and then!)
Regarding the bleeding, when I spoke to the midwife about it she said as I'm not passing any clots and it's not extremely heavy that it's just my body's way of telling me to slow down. Trouble is that's very difficult when Home alone with them both and the toddler doesn't walk yet so still having to carry her around.

I was planning on getting out for a walk this morning but that all went to shite

Thank you thank you all so much, I know I don't know any of you but writing it all down and getting replies from you has made me feel slightly more human and like I can get through the day until DH gets home for us all!

Wineismycarb currently dd has a couple of biscuits sat on the sofa with me watching some rubbish tv unfortunately the bath idea isn't really an option for us - once the bath support is in and they're both in together there's no room for anything else. I may chuck some ball pit balls in there for her though she would love that

I prefer the term arseholes i have 3 aged 6, 2 and 4 months. Most days end with me tearing my hair out and needing a gin

I do t have kids but spent the day with a friend and her two year old and 4 month old. The toddler is a lovely little girl and very well behaved and the baby is very chilled. But omg I don't know how she does it on her own when her husband is on a twelve hour shift! I think parents should have been born with 4 arms. Two is nowhere near enough!

Ah, OP, DDs 1 and 2 are 19 and 18 now, so it's easy for me to sound glib now, but I did think I would end up on a psychiatric ward sometimes, I truly did. A particularly low point was lugging DD1's pushchair, with DD2 in a carrier, up the steps to where the local baby and toddler group was held, to be told they were full, and we had to go home. We were put on a waiting list but never contacted. No family help as both my and DH's family live 250 miles away. DH at work, so I just had to get on with by myself. It was bloody tough. God only knows how single mums manage it - they must be superhuman.

Liz70 that sounds really awful! Doesn't sound like it was a very nice mother and baby group so maybe you dodged a bullet there.
There is a free group I might go to this week, but I've been before with dd and I know pushchairs have to stay outside in the lobby, so I'm not sure how I'm going to carry a 14 month old, a newborn and a massive bag of stuff inside

I only have one DS who turned two in May, but fully remember hating 14-18 months. DS wasn’t properly walking then either and was frustrated by it and he wasn’t talking and also frustrated by that! He wouldn’t even sit nicely for lunch out and I struggled a lot during those months. I can’t imagine doing it with a two week old too, so all power to you!

That was a bit negative it gets so much better after 14 months though!!

Re your free group...

I have a 6.5 month old and we've been to a fair few baby groups. If I saw someone trying to carry a 14m and a newborn into the venue I'd absolutely 100% help them out and I'm positive others would too. If nobody sees you arrive, don't think twice about literally calling out for help. Someone will come! Also, if you need to feed your tiny one during the group I'm sure that someone else will keep an eye on your 14m old. Please don't let that be a reason not to go along, if it's a group you'd like to go to.

It sounds as if you're doing a fab job to me. As others have said, take one day at a time! Take care x

Totally normal! My two are seriously the best behaved kids I know but even then sometimes they are total cocks.

It takes some doing managing two littles! Pat on the back for you - you sound like a lovely Mum... how was the rest of your day? Manage a little you time when DH got home?

Thank you all for helping me through a particularly hellish day. Yesterday was better, and it certainly helps to get out of the house.
This morning has been really enjoyable even though toddler was up earlier than usual (not sure if it's because it's Friday and DH is off tomorrow )

I've got a seven year old and ten month old twins. I struggle with that let alone a dependant toddler as well. Btw they never stop being dicks, they just turn into nicer ones, sometimes 😊