How you would feel? Engagement ring/Relationship

[HannahBananaK]

Yesterday my DP was showing me something on his computer and on the screen in the add section I could see a jewellery website and loads on engagement rings popped up. So basically I am not a 100%sure but with some websites if you visit them they pop up in the add section on Facebook/ eBay etc
. Obviously I don't know for sure but it got me excited first. We're not married but been together for over 4years. So first I was excited and I was happy that he might be thinking about getting married. Just the fact the it might have crossed his mind. I am not ready to get married just yet. Maybe in 2-3years time but right now I want to concentrate on work.

Also our relationship has gone a bit bland recently. I don't feel the spark anymore. I love him to bits but especially our sex life has been a bit disappointing. I am trying to work on it and do my best and hands on heart I love him and we have lots in common and I can rely on him but I need that bit of extra.

I have such a mixed feelings and I am not sure how to clarify with myself what I actually want. How do I do that ? What would you do?

Is your question whether he was looking at rings or if you should say yes if he proposes given things have been a bit lacklustre recently?

First off no he probs wasn't looking at rings- these are targeted ads so tend to show up for certain demographics- eg men in a long term rship on fb, men in early 30s etc.

If your sex life is bothering you then speak to him- it prob won't get better without 2 way communication

It’s ok if you need some time to clarify your feelings. If he asks you to marry him you can tell him that you aren’t ready to decide yet.

But you need to be active in trying to make a decision, so that you don’t lead him on for years only to decide it isn’t right.

There is no reason why getting married means you can’t concentrate on work - it’s not like having a family when you might have to think more about how your career will be affected. But getting married is something you need to be certain about, and it doesn’t sound like you’re certain about this guy. Sex can be worked on, but fundamental compatibility can’t. If he isn’t the one you feel truly connected to for life, you shouldn’t marry him.

Whatever you decide I hope you both work it out and find happiness.